Boyfriend wanted to see how I write so I showed him a paper, he responds like this?

[driventodistractionk]

Boyfriend wanted to see my personal writing style, showed him a paper from Uni that I told him I got a really good mark in and he said "Seems pretty comprehensive" with a smiley face.

I feel like I was expecting a bit better of a compliment.

He's very complimentary otherwise.

He was saying it was long.

I remember when I was at uni and the lecturer commented in my essay feedback that I had a unique writing style and she enjoyed reading it so much she showed it to one of the other tutors. I was thrilled!

I'd be setting him an assignment - say 3000 words - on what he was thinking when he asked to see a paper you'd written.

Test him now.

Send him an excerpt from some of your work and another by someone else, and tell him to spot which is yours.

I was expecting an awful response from him. What he said is fine.... please don't read more into this than necessary.

Sounds patronising to me. Ask to read one of his!

Is it a relatively new relationship? Maybe he's beginning to fall for you and doesn't want to find out, further down the line, that you don't know how to use there, their and they're, or write 'of' instead of 'have' or something. 😁

@workhomesleeprepeat

This is hilarious! Bless him that he thinks academic writing shows a 'style'

Your true writing style prob shows up better on Whatsapp.

Most people do have a specific way of writing, whether that's academic or personal writing

Is he the kind of bloke who wants to believe he's better than his Mrs?

There are lots of them out there. I actually got dumped once for using 'long words' words an ex didn't understand.

Only REAL men can handle smart, funny or capable!

Sorry OP but I think that’s weird and rather arrogant. Reminds me of beammeup_softboi on IG

Did he mean 'comprehensive' as in the school you went to, in a sneering way? Or comprehensive as understandable?

He either found the paper boring, or more likely your writing style is better than his, so he was unable to say anything other that what he did! But what he said isn't a bad thing though..

I think the compliment was good.

You can learn a lot about a person from their writing style.

@workhomesleeprepeat

This is hilarious! Bless him that he thinks academic writing shows a 'style'

Your true writing style prob shows up better on Whatsapp.

Don't knock it - that's how they caught the Unabomber!

Did he mean 'comprehensive' as in the school you went to, in a sneering way? Or comprehensive as understandable?

I would assume he meant comprehensive as in complete; thorough.

that's how they caught the Unabomber!

One of my academic co-authors definitely has a style. It's long, complicated, detailed and, quite often, confusing.
I can spot her when reviewing papers before looking at the authors.
It's only here though.

Her, not here...

Is it an academic essay in an area with which he is fairly unfamilar? If so, I would not expect detailed compliments, and would consider his comment as favourable.

Most bizarre thread I've read recently. People must be bored.

This is pure gold.

I had quite a few boyfriends in my younger days. Not one asked to see my writing style. My DH of over 25 years never did either, maybe I should dump him as I guess he is just not that into me?

Actually, now it all makes sense. There was one boyfriend who ditched me with the 'it's not you, it's me' line and I never really understood what the issue was. Now I think I know. He must have surreptitiously got hold of a piece of my writing and decided I was just not the girl for him.

@driventodistractionk

Boyfriend wanted to see my personal writing style, showed him a paper from Uni that I told him I got a really good mark in and he said "Seems pretty comprehensive" with a smiley face.

I feel like I was expecting a bit better of a compliment.

He's very complimentary otherwise.

What a naff stingey comment, not exactly Mr "Full of Compliments" is he. It's what I'd expect of a tutor not my OH.

YANBU to have at least expected him to say he is proud of your achievement. Or could it have made him feel a bit threatened by your intellect

[quote driventodistractionk]@HollowTalk he's at University himself. He just wanted to see it, claims everyone's writing style is different and personal.[/quote]
He sounds a bit up himself then!

I'd say comprehensive was a compliment-he meant you'd covered everything thoroughly.
Not sure what you thought he might say: "My darling, having seen the style of your writing I now know I can't ever bear to be apart from you"

When dh was doing his doctorate I told him the graphs he had looked like little monsters peeling over a wall. He asked me to show, so I took an old one and adapted it for him. He was never able to unsee it.