Does the truth come out when drunk?

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When someone is drunk does truth come out? Or do they chat crap?

I believe it's your inner feelings. Boyfriend (who broke up with me whilst highly intoxicated) says it was just him chatting crap.

It's been a highly stressful month. Unplanned pregnancy, new relationship. I've given him the choice to walk away and he chose not to.

I accepted his choice of breaking up last night and today been told it's all a mistake and he didn't mean it and he wants to be in a relationship.

I've told him not to make any decisions just yet, and have left us broken up.

Thoughts?

(To clarify he's not being an arse he couldn't be nicer to me. I'm not angry or upset I'm just confused) I dealt with the realisation of doing it on my own right from the start so it's not that I 'need' him. I want him.

Both are true. He doesn't want the baby and he doesn't want the serious relationship 5 minutes in but he also doesn't want to be a cunt or to break up with you or not to see his child. I think it's ok for both to be true. Don't make him feel bad about having doubts and fears, it's natural. I'm sure you have doubts and fears about the relationship too?

And As of yesterday he seems to have got back to the pre pregnancy us. Being all attentive, and doing all the stuff he was

The 'pre pregnancy us' no longer exists.

Because she cheated on him.

He generally is a couple of cans and goes to sleep for 8.30 kind of bloke as he's up at 5 for work.

I mean his behaviour towards me, is like it was before I was pregnant and no being off.

And yes I know. But the situation happened. Realistically all options were far from ideal. I'm trying to make the best out of a shit situation with trying to give him as much leniency as possible.

We're both in our 30's.

I agree with the PPs who have said that drink magnifies whatever you are feeling, often to a dangerous degree. Probably half of my friends are recovering alcoholics, as am I, and there's a part in the big book (our kind of bible) that says the alcoholic is Jekyll and Hyde.

I'm not suggesting alcoholism here at all, but the tendency to catastrophise, to express an exaggerated version of our worst fears, definitely exists.

Thank you lobster... x

I think there's some definite truth in it.

I wouldn't say he's an alcoholic but I would say that he doesn't know when to stop when he does have the occasional drink (I've only seen him drunk twice) and we spend 5/6 nights a week together which on occasion night he fine but I don't want it to be a regular occurrence. But with the current situation I'm not going to object to him getting stuff out of his system

Sure things are good as long as he's getting sex.
You seem determined to smooth over the obvious.
I feel for your existing DC.
They're the ones who suffer for their parents impulsive decisions.
It's still not too late for a termination.
Not want you want to hear but you know deep down this isn't good.
Sorry, really not trying to be rude but these stories get old.

That's just not a possibility for me. My children will be just fine whether, the father of this baby stays in our lives or not I have a very supportive family and friend network and I would rather have a few years of upheaval than causing myself mental health issues over making that decision.

I don't want it to be a regular occurrence.

It's whether or not he wants to stop that will matter.