Eharmony anyone ?

[fuckedandbombed]

Hi
I've been single a year and the only way I'm likely to meet anyone these days is online . I tried match and thought it a total waste of time and money.

Has anyone tried e - harmony? It's also quite costly so thought it sensible to get a few opinions.

Any in line dating advice very much appreciated.

I'm on bumble which is free but very little success on there . Had loads of dates from Match but never wanted a second! Maybe I'm too fussy ! 🙂.

Opinions most appreciated on the online date apps

Thanks

It’s been 12+ years since I’ve done OLD, but the guys I met on eharmony turned out to be painfully, mind numbingly boring. I’m not sure what this says about me (because obviously it’s meant to match you based on your personality). Maybe I’m too exciting so I needed someone extra dry to balance me out? I don’t know.

I know lots of people who’ve used Plenty of Fish, and they seem to meet lovely interesting people.

E-Harmony matched me with a vicar who breeds guide dogs.

I’m an allergic atheist.

Met dh on Tinder and not even embarrassed.

ah well this bodes well😂

I might swerve !

Bumble is free !

Plenty of fish (free) was best for me. 2 months in and it’s going well so far! Best of luck

I see horror stories from pof....job related ! I've avoided! And tinder !

@LividLaughLovely

E-Harmony matched me with a vicar who breeds guide dogs.

I’m an allergic atheist.

Met dh on Tinder and not even embarrassed.

I think they matched me with the same man . I am a militant Atheist and it was detailed in my profile and they matched me with a C of E vicar.

I wanted my money back, they wouldn't give it me so I cancelled the none too cheap subscription. I didn't meet a single person. POF or Tinder were better.

Ok that's good to know ! Thank you

Adding to what others have said, I thought it was absolutely shite. By far the worst of any dating site or app I’ve ever tried (and I’ve tried a lot! 😂).

I found POF to be good. Yes, you get the married, sex crazed etc however once you’ve done it for a while you get to know what to avoid.
Here’s a list I complied lol
Anyone who hasn’t bother to say much about themselves in their profile, where in their profile it mentions them being open minded (this is code for they’re into something weird sexually), the angry profile where a guy just seems to be annoyed with all women, guys that have just separated (avoid).
A lot of the guys I spoke to had multiple profiles So they were on a paid site too.
I decided after a year of dating from POF, to be a bit more proactive and message first. I met someone 18 months ago and we have a wonderful relationship.

I tried eHarmony (admittedly a few years ago!) and found it really good! I didn't meet anyone that I ended up having relationship with, but I got on like a house on fire with all my meets - we had lots in common and all my matches were quite similar in personality to me. So I really enjoyed it and would use the site if I wanted to meet anyone again. I think the secret is to fill out the questionnaires really honestly and to take the time to do it properly. If you don't I guess it means you might be matched with someone unsuitable.

Also (when I was on there) eHarmony would only accept single people. If a guy puts down he's separated he's not allowed to post a profile. Only singles and divorced people allowed to join. I know it's somewhat easy to get around but that gave me a level of reassurance; along with the membership fee, and the fact you have to complete some quite lengthy information about yourself first. I liked the fact that I didn't feel there were timewasters on the site.

I met my husband 10 years ago on eharmony, married 7 years now with 1 child.

The joining questionnaire is really long and detailed.
I answered all the questions really honestly and my dh tells me that so did he from his end.
This is probably the main reason why it was successful for us.

Dh was my first match suggestion, but I was speaking to and arranging dates in parallel with other men too.

I met 3 other men in total, they were all good matches for me too (at least from what I could tell on the other first dates I went on) and I was happy to see in person that they had represented themselves accurately on line.

So I had a great experience!

I’m about to start OLD after 4 years of being single. I’m going to look at Bumble and a Tinder to start as they are free. Maybe Match. All a bit daunting though ...... (I’m in my fifties, single mum)

I joined eharmony and I really liked it. Met some nice men but nothing worked out with them - it was just a chemistry thing.

Met my DH on pof. It really is just a combination of timing, luck and persistence that leads to success I think.

Zoosk is good. Have chatted with about five men with varying levels of success/ interest. But am meeting one of them in real life on Saturday. Can't wait!
Elite Singles was crap. Very low traffic and it tried to match me with a load of unappealing old codgers who looked as though they had one foot in the grave. Same age demographic on both, so can't understand the algorithms at play there.
Good luck, OP. I only started dipping my toe into this about six weeks ago, with a bit of trepidation at first. But it has been fun.

I also met my husband on eharmony. We both really liked it!

The subscription and taxing questionnaires seemed to mean that the men on there were looking for a proper relationship, rather than a quick shag.

I also used some free sites like pof- they all seemed to be full of the sort of men who'd have their wedding ring in their pocket...

I hated eHarmony, although a friend had great success with it. I kept getting matches completely outside of my essential criteria (had thought there would be plenty of people in my large city), people who were obviously a lot older than they claimed, and generally no joy. I found the hoops you had to jump through before actually messaging someone frustrating, and I used to get a sinking feeling every time I had an email from them. Was very happy to give it up!

I met Dh on bumble :) you really do have to screen out some weirdos though

Never tried E Harmony but tried just about every other and I can honestly say they are all pretty much the same, it's just luck.

I didn't like PoF at all and felt very overwhelmed by it but others like it. I thought Tinder had a stigma but when i tired it I realised it's all the same people as on the other apps anyway!

I met my bf on Bumble a year ago, which I think was my preferred app (not just because I met him)!

I also met my husband on eharmony so considered it a good return on the fee! I also have a best friend who had similar success on POF.

I met my husband on e Harmony. First person I met. We felt we deserved a medal after getting through the questions!
We are really good matches and I feel really lucky...
plus... he paid more than I did so I can say he bought me on the internet.....

Thanks everyone good for thought . It's pricey so I might stick to freebie sites for a while . I've had a lot of dates but never wanted a second so I'm getting a bit disheartened.

@fuckedandbombed yes it can be disheartening. I noticed that when I started to get disheartened my dates became really boring and felt like I was just going through the motions. I then stopped it for a few weeks/months to muster up more enthusiasm. My most enjoyable dates were when I was feeling more confident about myself so taking a break was necessary for me to not let rejection/limited choice get me down.

Met my partner on tinder. Nearly 2 years. He's amazing