Boyfriend and friend flirting

[AlyssaE]

Hi there

Little bit of a long story but hopefully someone can help. Basically my friend, who is one of my very best friends, has been very flirty with my boyfriend and I’m not sure if I can move on from it this time.

At Christmas me and my boyfriend were not getting along and they got very close at that time. They were always messaging eachother a million hearts (which I’m going to admit I checked out of concern) and when they were drunk he let her suck drugs off his fingers(?!) and they were always very touchy feely including her jumping up and wrapping her leg around him. Anyway I spoke to him and he agreed it had gotten too far and that he would not do those things anymore. During corona we had a natural break from seeing her and only just started seeing her again. We met up with him on Friday and he was at a bachelor party and was very drunk when we got there. This resulted in him lying his head on her lap, them holding hands, her kissing him very close to his mouth and repeatedly stroking him when he was sat with her. I feel pretty betrayed. I told him to stop many times during the night but he was too drunk to care. When I was away at Christmas they hung out alone until 5am in our apartment and he always claimed
Nothing happened..now I don’t know. What the hell do I do? It’s so complicated and I feel massively sad and disrespected...again.

Ps I’m now married to a wonderful man that has never made me feel insecure. He loves and respects me. These terrible men make you appreciate the good ones, view it as character building and move on.

If that was my boyfriend hed bot see me again for dust. Hes openly cheating,you know it, he knows it, get rid of him and her for that matter !

That is so disrespectful. You really should end it with him, if this is what he is happy to do right infront of your face then what is he doing behind your back... And real friends don't do this, Have you ever spoken to her and told her to stop? Think about getting them both out of your life and find friends and a boyfriend who respect you.

You tackled him about this before, did you say anything to her?

Sadly, I think you need to ditch them both.

He sounds useless anyway so she deserves him.

He let her suck drugs off his fingers?.... aside from a million other reasons, they both sound like absolute scum.

Is this the same partner as last time who was a shit

Oh my Lord OP- just read your other thread about finding naked pictures on your BFs computer. PLEASE raise your standards!! If this is the same guy- DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY (even if it isn’t- still dump this guy IMMEDIATELY) and it’s probably a great idea for you to take a look at yourself and figure out why you enter relationships with men who clearly have no respect for you and who are vile pigs. YOU DESERVE MUCH BETTER THAN THIS OP.

Just wanted to echo everyone’s advice- neither of these people respects or cares about you. I get that it’s hard, and a huge step to take when your social circles are all linked, but having this man (and this friend) in your life will never make you feel good about yourself. From the details you’ve given it sounds highly likely that they have slept together already or will do at the first opportunity - which they’ve already had. The longer it goes on the more respect and confidence you will lose for yourself and friends will lose for you. Take control and wave goodbye to them both.

Yuk. Get rid of both. And get some self respect ffs

They both sound like horrible people. I’d actually probably be more hurt about the best friend. That’s not very good ‘Friend’ behaviour!!!! Id say bin him or at the very least give a hard ultimatum.. she needs a good talking to as well and you should seriously reconsider whether she is a true friend or not

He let her suck drugs off his fingers .
That’s all I could see
Talk about scraping the bottom of the barrel!! I can’t believe that you are looking for opinions on what you should do
Get rid of both of them , they are both totally disgusting ,and drastically raise your standards in potential friends and partners