Is my daughter being unreasonable?

[ange1362]

My daughter is 19 weeks pregnant with her first child. Her partner is an MC and wants to go to an outdoor festival. She doesn't want to go as she is worried about the risk of coronavirus but he however has decided to go without her. She has told him that the relationship is over (its not the first time something has come before her and the baby), is she being unreasonable about not wanting him to go because of the risks involved with the amount of people going?

I feel she is bu. He could quarantine before he returns. We're going to have this virus for a long time, is he expected to stop being an mc altogether?

Being an MC is not his proper job, its a hobby

If he was your son and his gf didn't want him to go, then separated from him for wanting to go, you'd be on the side of your son I think. She can't throw her dummy out every time he does something she doesn't like

A simple way to solve the situation is that he agrees to quarantine before going home

Whether she's unreasonable or not, I'd say you should keep out of it!

Unfortunately this isn't the first time he has let her down, if it was then I would agree that she is being unreasonable, she is not throwing her dummy out as you so eloquently put it she is worried for the safety of her baby. He has nowhere to quarantine

Wow. Controlling. If you do x we're over...I'd be waving goodbye to her. Get out before or gets worse. I'd be talking to my daughter of she acted this way. It's abusive.

Your daughter sounds like really hard work. Is she usually this unreasonable or is she just hormonal? She doesn't need to be any more worried about Covid than anyone else until she's 28 weeks, according to my neonatal specialist friend.

This is obviously a thread I should have started in the pregnancy section, there may have been a bit more understanding there.

Thanks for your comments but obviously of no help at all, this isn't the first time he has let her down, I will be leaving this website, truly awful

Hmmmm. He does seem to be putting the event before his baby/partner.

You say that he does this type of thing a lot?

If so then she's probably better off without him

However if this was a one off and he had considered quarantining when he returned....then that would be fine imo

@ange1362 ok I'll bite, how did he let her down before?

Lol it's not the website, you just don't like the answers lol. I can't see any reason why the bloke can't go to the gig. Your dd does seem a bit controlling

Why do you think your daughter and the baby always have to come first for him. That’s not how life works. They will be a priority but not the only priority.

Absolutely fair for her to say that he should stay away for 14 days.
There's clearly a drip feed here, if there's more to it then spill because otherwise no one can give an informed opinion.

Looking at your response to the posts you didn’t like and what you say about your daughter, I’d say the apple didn’t fall far from the tree!

your leaving because you asked a question and didn't like the responses? clear to see where your daughter gets her behaviour from !

You asked for feedback and then threw your dummy out when people didn't give the feedback you wanted. Sound familiar? He can socially distance and it's outside. Does she stop him going food shopping too?

OP, when you title a thread "Is my daughter being unreasonable?" you might need to be open to the possibility that some people will say "yes".

It seems that the question is moot, anyway, if she has finished with him. It was clearly a deal breaker for her.

Well that was a quick flounce 😂

@ange1362. I can see where she gets her dummy throwing from

I'm so confused.

You ask if she was being unreasonable. Do you not understand that a question can have multiple answers?

The apple really doesn't fall far from the tree does it

Oh didums.
Well at least they arn’t married.

And no OP, he hasn't let her down this time. Covid isn’t going anywhere any time soon and we are going to have to get used to it so he is perfectly entitled to go.

He should be prioritizing her health and safety. She isn’t being unreasonable at all. N

I can't believe that so many people are OK with someone going to a festival, where I'll tell you now that distancing cannot and will not be maintained, then coming straight home to his pregnant wife. Seriously? The guy's an MC so he's going to struggle to be masked up and he's hardly going to be in a visor and PPE, is he?

You can't maintain distancing in a bloody high street let alone a festival and this cornavirus is still lurking, it's not magically gone away.

I don't know about whether I'd leave him or not for this but it would certainly give me a heads up on the level of care and support I could expect from him in the months to come and I'd be thinking about whether I'd be better off on my own.

I don't understand most of these replies. It's the guys hobby not his job, we're in the middle of a global pandemic and he's putting his family at risk. It's all well and good saying he should quarantine for 14 days but how many pregnant women would be happy not being with their partner for 2 weeks. He's got his priorities all wrong

Seeing as the risks to in utero babies from Covid is currently unknown I would not be happy at him putting his hobby before the baby. If he can't quarantine before returning and the Mum is isolating to protect herself then I would be thinking of ending the relationship tbh.