Is my daughter being unreasonable?

[ange1362]

My daughter is 19 weeks pregnant with her first child. Her partner is an MC and wants to go to an outdoor festival. She doesn't want to go as she is worried about the risk of coronavirus but he however has decided to go without her. She has told him that the relationship is over (its not the first time something has come before her and the baby), is she being unreasonable about not wanting him to go because of the risks involved with the amount of people going?

@user1471457751

I don't understand most of these replies. It's the guys hobby not his job, we're in the middle of a global pandemic and he's putting his family at risk. It's all well and good saying he should quarantine for 14 days but how many pregnant women would be happy not being with their partner for 2 weeks. He's got his priorities all wrong

There is so much information missing from the OP its hard to see anything other than if she kicked him out, he would be getting the better end of the deal.

Oh FFS, grow up OP. The quality of posters on this site is woefully lacking...

I think OP‘s daughter is being unreasonable. Maybe info is missing, maybe he let her down previously. Or maybe she has unreasonable expectations about what you can and cannot demand from your partner in a healthy relationship. It is hard to tell. But it does sound like this drama about the festival is just a pretext and it is really about a deeper issue.

If he wants to go he needs to quarantine afterwards and if he can't arrange that he shouldn't go.

I say I'm leaving too many times. It's not right or healthy. What I really mean is I'm finding this situation impossible and I cannot accept it. I should say that instead. I'm lucky I have a partner who recognises this and talks it through with me. We do lack communication in the first instance but after the fact we can come to a decision where it isn't impossible.

They really need to communicate together, if they can they have a chance to work it out but if they can't resolve it, then this will happen again and again. Wish them both good look on sorting it out!

Sounds like she's not unreasonable to be concerned about unnecessary exposure to Covid (why are festivals even happening at the moment? is your DD in the UK?), but is unreasonable to be having a baby with this selfish manchild.