Does having a baby ever help love to develop?

[Henriettala]

I’m in the dog house for telling my long time best friend not to have a baby with someone she has been in an ‘on off’ relationship with.

She’s been seeing him every few months for the last year. She’s said they’ve talked about kids and so she thinks it’s a way to solidify then and bring them together and that the on off thing was more about distance than anything else 🤔 I said absolutely it wouldn’t bring them closer and they wouldn’t magically get along and be in love just because of a baby.

Cue silence from here for the last 48 hours. The longest we haven’t spoken :(

No. I imagine it would make it worse. If you weren't in love before sleep deprivation, less sex and cleaning up shit why would you be afterwards?

Having a baby or two brings 90% of solid relationships to the brink.

So many relationships break up in the first year, it puts an awful strain on things.

I remember having to tell myself “I must love him, we’ve been together 12 years, I can’t kill him“ in those early months of hormones, wounds, leaky breasts, sleep deprivation and sheer exhaustion. It’s a hell of a time.