I'm done. Just been called a cunt

[Dontaskmegoogleit]

That's it really, always said if it comes to that....I'm done.
I understand it doesn't hit has hard as what others have and do go through. But that was my threshold

How are you feeling? What advice/ help do you need to get out of your situation?

I dont know what advice I need. Just needed to write down and confirm, if that makes sense. Perhaps I need , yes you deserve more than that ?

Your line has been crossed, you are totally reasonable to say no more that's it.
There is no good reason for someone to use that word against you and you are right to not accept it.

Just for context. Second marriage, I have 1dd and 1 ds, 20 and 17.
He has been our lives for 10 years, always issues, but I brushed them under the carpet.

No more brushing under the carpet you are worth more than that, your children deserve a better example than that

Thank you, yes. A line has been crossed. Which weirdly enough I have only set recently.

You don't need to tolerate this nonsense. It's not what comes out of the mouths of even half decent men. Raise the bar for yourself, don't talk yourself out of leaving him and get the ball rolling.

I sometimes despair of what some women will tolerate. The only acceptable level of verbal abuse is none

Go and don’t look back.

What would you tell your Dd if someone spoke to her like that?

If you need to be told that your line has been crossed and you need to leave then I'll tell you 

Can you elaborate at all on your situation? Are there kids involved? Are you married? Do you need help finding alternative accommodation or making your oh leave?

I hope you're ok as you can be, are you in any way at threat of violence or is it all verbal? You can call the police either way if you're concerned about your safety. Stay safe @Dontaskmegoogleit

My kids DO deserve better.

How was he with your children?

I'm sorry OP we hugely crossed posts. You and your DC deserve better

YOU deserve better than that

Thank you all for your consideration, I've been on mumsnet for a fair few years,and with that, I've realised what I've put up with. Drip... drip.... drip...

Good for you. Do you have a plan yet?

Feel free to unload how you're feeling

I'd be done too. It's just unacceptably misogynistic and vile. I'd never be with someone who could call any woman that, never mind one he is supposed to have some respect and love for.

Get out now, OP.

Be strong and protect yourself, you do not deserve to be spoken to like that.
Please seek help on splitting with your abusive partner and do it. Life in the other side is so much better

He has been good with my children, they have issues with the way he treats me. Yes I know !
How can I be an example to my daughter and son. But in reality i let things slide if the good weighs out the bad..... not saying that's right.

Sorry if I'm not replying to individuals. My tech skills on social media are lacking, slow type too !

I think you know he isn't good to your kids if he treats their mother so badly. Your self esteem is probably quite low now if you've endured this for 10 years

I'm more financially stable than he is. Last time we nearly broke up his only interest was how much he could get of the equity on my house. He wanted me to ask my dad to buy him out.
I get that he deserves something , but his fantasy is way off reality.

Have you seen a solicitor?

I dont know why I am wary / scared of being on my own...... I loved it before. For 6 years !