Ok, so my sister has been seeing her boyfriend for about 8 or 9 months.
They met at uni and for the first few months everything seemed great and she was really happy with him. He's always been respectful, polite, decent towards her and is full of compliments and lovely presents for her all the time.
However..... over the last couple of months he's started neglecting his personal hygiene to the extent when they meet in public she says "you've hot bad breath... There's a shop, just go and buy some toothpaste and cheap toothbrush"..That's how bad things have become. She gets horribly embarrassed by his bad smells or grubby appearance. Or he turns up stinking of dirt, with mess ground in to his jeans, unwashed face, dirty nails.. Yuk. In the early days of the relationship he used to take such a lot of pride and care in his appearance and hygiene was never a problem.
He's also started turning up dressed in what's best described as rags, tshirts full of holes, food stains, ripped trousers, shoes with the soles hanging off. Not to be rude, but he look like a homeless person who lives on the streets.
He's also started "sleeping in the bus station" in other not to be late for work. He works really far from his flat, in a different town that's akward to reach. So he finishes work, eats fast food then spends the nights sleeping in the bus station near his work. Rather than risk being late or having to pay bus fares all week.
He rents a flat alone and my sister says his flat is relatively comfortable but he lives like a pig. She cares about him and has dropped LOTS of hints for him to clean up his act otherwise she will dump him. He always cries and promises "I'll wash, I'll clean my teeth.. I'll do it for you..". He needs to do it for himself, not her! My sister is only 20 and is in the prime of her life, a beautiful girl with her whole life ahead of her but she's settling for someone like this. He's always asking her to "lend" him money as well. He asks for £20 a few times a week but never pays it pack. Sometimes he buys her a box of chocs to say thanks but that's it. She's a student and he seems to be sponging off her. It's reall sad.
Whenever he comes to our family home for Sunday lunch or parties etc he leaves behind a horrible smelly of dirt, sweat. It's horrible. He's only in his mid 20s, he's a good looking guy with good friends, good education and good job but he just seems to live like a sponger and a slob.