My husband has left days before my due date...

[FirstTimeMum1991]

Hi everyone, I have posted on here a few times throughout my pregnancy and always received such wonderful support that I’m back again today. My husband has had an affair which has lasted (and ruined) my entire pregnancy. I take responsibility in the fact that I have been so desperate for him to “change” and prove everyone wrong that at times I have turned a blind eye and tried to tell myself that he will wake up and see what he is doing and what he has to lose. Of course it never happened and this morning I caught him in contact with her again. She knows all about me and my baby. I do not just blame her, I blame both of them. I just feel utterly broken. My baby is due on Monday. And I just don’t know where I am going to find the strength over the next few days to get through this huge stage in life where I saw him next to me. I know it’s not about me but you can’t help but feel, why her? What does she bring that I didn’t? Sorry for rambling on, I just don’t even know what to do with myself. Luckily I am with my parents who are amazing and I won’t be alone at any stage, I’m just scared how I am going to cope. Thanks everyone.

Well done lovely and huge congrats

Congratulations on the birth of your wee girl! Take some time for you. Take as much support as you can get. I had my oldest on my own your will cherish so many moments between you and her ❤️

I know it's shit and the tiling couldn't be worse, but if he can treat you like this at such a time then you are most definitely better off without him.

Accept all the offers of help you get. It will get better (I can say this with some confidence having seen a friend go through exactly the same thing).

Take care and all the best to you and your precious baby!

I feel like I want to scoop you both up and tell you everything will be ok. I'm so sorry that your husband has done this to you both. Thank god you have good parents for support, lean into them as much as possible.

This won't be the way you imagined it, your life must take a different path now, but this slightly different way, is much better than sticking with a man who does not love or value either of you. You are worth so much more than this, he will never be deserving of you.

Let your midwife and health visitor know what is going on, they will be able to offer you better support if they know your circumstances.

Lots of love, and congratulations on your beautiful little babe x

Congratulations on the birth of your little girl. 💐

Just came upon your thread and wondering how things are for you? Hope all is well

this is heart breaking .. I hope you and your DD are well 💕

I wonder how the OP is

I am so sorry op. I divorced two weeks before my dc was born. It was very hard but now I look back and think: we did it! You will do it too!! Anything you need, message me! This too shall pass!

Congratulations on your baby.

‘You take responsibility’? Responsible for what. He’s the one having the affair. You’re not responsible for this or his actions.

Focus on yourself and the baby. Don’t let him lovebomb you now the baby is here. If he didn’t stop the affair when you were pregnant, he’s not going to stop now.

Aah, just noticed this thread is a year old.

@Jaxhog

I do not just blame her, I blame both of them.

It's HIS fault, not hers!!! I hate this idea that men go around slavering after any woman who crooks a finger. She has no loyalty to you. HE has a contract!! I hope you take him to the cleaners for all you can get. Leaving you just before you give birth to HIS child.What a Prince.

Oh please. Yes, it is his fault, he is the married one with responsibilities. No one is disputing that. But this excuse of a woman knew that she was messing around with a married man with a baby on the way. She is a despicable creature. They are both disgusting human beings.

I know it’s not about me but you can’t help but feel, why her?

Im guessing, because she's not pregnant.

Yet.

If she does get pregnant by him, she may find he does similar.

Sometimes men don't do this with thrurcaffair partner, only because they've they've the "wasn't right with woman 1, was twu luv wity woman 2, meant to be" etc etc excuse and they know they can't use it again, they know there's no avoiding looking like an absolute bastard and loser to everyone so they stay; but the relationship I still usually shit behind the scenes.