How do I learn to love myself

[Lacey2019]

Hello,
Saturday night and I am back to feeling rock bottom. I broke up with my ex almost a year ago, moving out of the house we had early November last year. Since then he’s strung me along, telling me how happy I make him, how he can’t get rid of photos on social media etc as they at the happiest years of his life, how he’ll never meet someone like me and how when I’m nice I make him so happy and smile, but I need to add him back on social media now (after he removed me) and leave a door open for the future. It came to light, although he never admits it, that he met someone a few weeks after I left.

I feel repulsive. If I’m not drinking I’m crying, not eating or just not wanting to be around anymore :(

Has anyone had counselling over something such as this

I'm so sorry you're feeling so low. Please speak to the Samaritans if you're feeling this bad.

Try not to drink, it makes you feel worse, especially afterwards, and depletes serotonin so fucks with your brain chemistry.

Counselling sounds like a good call - you've had a horrible time.

Hello Lacey2019,

We're so sorry to hear you are feeling so dreadful.

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You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

All the very best - we really hope things will look brighter soon.

You can definitely go for counselling for something like this. I have and I recommend it.

I'm sorry your ex has treated you like this. Please know it's really not a reflection on you or your worth. It may feel that way right now but it isn't. He sounds very manipulative.

It took me a while to get over a manipulative and cruel man and I had counselling for it. There was something about it which totally eroded me inside and it felt like it haunted me. There were many days I just sat in my house and couldn't face moving. It did change though and now I don't think about him much at all.

I really would recommend getting some support

Mindfulness.
CBT.
Search 'Self-Compassion'.

Also CBT helped me to get over a manipulative, harmful ex.

Thank you. I will look into all your suggestions