Do you think he will become abusive?

[ValiMyers]

Well I've been with my boyfriend for about a year..the other day we were in bed and I turned around and accidentally elbowed him in the nose. He immediately clipped me round the ear...wasn't especially hard but even so.
He has smashed my phone once too on purpose , I can't remember the reason now. And tried to trip me over after an argument as I went to leave.
Do you think this is worrying? He said he'd never hit a woman but I just don't like some of his behaviour.

No- I don’t think he will become abusive- he IS abusive.

He sounds like a dick, and I believe he will become more abusive, and I think you should leave him.

Sorry, but there it is.

Yip. Already is.

Get out of the relationship.

He said he'd never hit a woman

But that's clearly not true isn't it as he's tripped you up and smacked you around the ear. He's also destroyed your property, which I hope he replaced.

Once you're out of the relationship, have a think about why you didn't leave at the first sign, rather than waiting for him to escalate.

Agree with PP he is abusive and will only get worse.

(note: I said MORE abusive. He has abused you.)

He already is abusive I think. Leave him it never gets better.

He said he'd never hit a woman

How romantic. Make sure he puts that in the marriage vows. OP, do you really need to ask us about this?

He is already abusive towards you and his abuses of you has ramped up further over time. His actions here are about power and control and he wants absolute over you here. Your boundaries, perhaps already skewed, are being further messed up and eroded by this individual. Abuse like this is insidious in its onset and will take time to recover from. Please look at the Freedom Programme run by Womens Aid.

I would plan to leave him as soon as you are able to do so. How can you be helped into leaving your abuser?.

He's already abusive. It's concerning you can't see that.

You need to do the Freedom Programme course.

He clipped you around the ear because you done something by accident? What a twat. My ex smashed up my phone, spat at me and smacked round the face one after the other, that arsehole had a ride in a nee naw. He didn’t come back either. You need to leave or show him the door if it’s your house

Yes this is already pretty bad abuse. It’ll only get harder to leave so you need to end this relationship now

Does it say anything that I didn't have to open the thread to know that he's already abusive?

Just having to ask the question 'will he become abusive?' says everything.

You wrote about this guy a month ago but you said you'd just split from him having been with him 2 years?

Whichever it is he's bad news, get rid.

This is abuse!!

He is abusive, get rid of him now, he will only get worse and will try to destroy you.

He said he'd never hit a woman

As PP's said, he already has. Other attempts at violence such as tripping you up are not ok either, and nor is smashing up your stuff. The smashing stuff is designed to intimidate you as you don't know what he's going to do next.

If you even are considering whether a bloke will become physically abusive based on some of their behaviour, it's time to go.

And as we've said, he already is anyway.

Smashing up your phone is perhaps also an attempt to control you by isolating you, making it hard for you to contact the outside world.

He's a nasty bastard...fuck him off! No excuse for anything and it will only get worse!

My dd's bf told her he would never cheat.
He was already..
Get rid op.

You need to get out of this relationship OP, this behaviour is not normal, he's already abusive, get out now!

He's abusive.

OP, if you met a man who said he didn't murder women, how would you feel?

There's no difference.

Like other PP he is already abusing you. Get rid of his abusive arse.

That ship has already sailed.

Get out now.

You've already let him get away with these behaviours.

It will only escalate.