Sick to the back teeth of DH's childish sulking

[Vonni77]

We had a disagreement last night after I raised something that was bothering me, I was perfectly within my right to bring it up and just wanted a frank discussion. That was at around 6pm and he sulked until i went to bed at midnight.

I wake up this morning and he's still sulking, silently meandering about the house in a negative mood making preparations for the DSC to come today but not talking to anybody. This could go on for the rest of the day or rest of the week.

He is 35 years old, how would you deal with this short of telling him to grow the fuck up? I'm tired of not being able to communicate because this is always the outcome

You'll never have security financial or otherwise from a cheat who can't own and take responsibility for their own behaviour.

A healthy or "normal" family unit isn't about and will never be about the number of people that live under the roof.

This dynamic isn't healthy and I can tell you from experience you'll be still waiting on your deathbed for this prick to behave like a decent human being.

The only person who can make security for you and your son is you; remember that.

@MintyMabel

I've found out he will be having some limited but unavoidable contact with the woman he cheated with, and I want us/him to have counselling to identify the root cause and take steps to avoid it happening again with her or anybody else.

It's limited and unavoidable. I guess he is sick of having you throw it in his face every time he has to have contact with the woman. I'm not sure why he needs counselling for you to get over the issue.

Hey, Newsflash: if you do something as shitty as cheat on a partner then you better accept that the onus is on you to repair the damage that you inflicted. There's a reason the OP needs reassurance - because her partner previously abused her trust. Something like this comes up - even if its limited and unavoidable - then you owe it to the person you traumatised to at the very least talk about and offer reassurance. To show that you hear them and you care. Because the reason they're being like this is because of YOUR actions.

You can't be arsed? You think its up to them to "just get over" the emotional damage you inflicted? You think this kind of thing doesn't take time? Then do your partner a favour and just get out of town, because you're clearly can't muster the empathy a healthy relationship requires.

PS: OP please check out chumplady.com. She's brilliant and there's a whole community of people who've been through what you're experiencing.