New guy has a sex phone?!

[Jjjjjj1981]

Been dating a guy I met on Tinder for about two months, it seems to be going well. I’d say we are at the point of being exclusive and have had a brief conversation about this (initiated by him).
We usually just WhatsApp but I needed to ring him the other day for the first time, but when I did it said the phone number was disconnected. I raised this with him and he said it was an old number he didn’t realise didn’t work anymore and he gave me another one. So he clearly has two phone numbers and two WhatsApp accounts. I’d always found his photo on his (old number) WhatsApp a bit questionable, it’s related to his sexual tastes shall we say, and wondered how he could have that there for everyone to see. His new WhatsApp is a normal photo of just him.
So now I’m confused, does he have two phones? (I’ve only ever seen one when he’s been around me) The old WhatsApp photo makes sense now, he was obviously using that number for hook ups etc. And now I’m questioning seeing him online obviously talking to someone else on that number a fair few times when I thought we were exclusive.
And would I have never found out about the other phone?
It’s a new relationship, I’m not angry, nor did I really expect exclusiveness. It just seems a bit yuk if I’m honest, would you see this as a red flag?

This is far too much drama for me, he’s ditched

No chance I’d continue with this guy. I’d be properly ending it. You’ll always be wondering about the second (now conveniently private) second WhatsApp account.
Friends my ass. He’s a player. Get out now.

Well done OP. One to add to the twat list.

@anotherdisaster

Sorry but I find anyone having 2 phones for dating a bit odd. You don't want to give 'random strangers' your number (you can block people you know) but you would perhaps meet them?? He lied about it and that's all you need to know.

Blocking them doesn’t prevent them using other sims/landlines. Sadly some of us have learned the hard way, unless I know someone well they don’t get my main number. It isn’t worth the hassle of having to change your phone number.

I think you’re doing the right thing

Have you stayed at his house? I’d be concerned he is in a relationship with someone and uses the burner phone for hook ups.

Off you fuck then lad.
Good call, OP.
How's he taken it?

Good move OP

Yep your right op to ditch him. If there's no trust now it would always eat away at you.
Everything you said sounded so dodgy.

Well done OP

@Jjjjjj1981

I have asked him about it, he’s said all the right things.....getting rid of the number, not wanting to mess things up between us, etc. But yeah he admitted he had been talking to other people on the hook up number since we’ve been exclusive, but they had become friends and it was not sexual. Yeah ok Tip of the iceberg is right I think sadly. Thanks again for all your advice.

The only silver lining is that he came out with this gem now and not six months down the line.

I think you have made the right decision. Life is too short for this kind of thing. You most likely have had a narrow escape

Did we never find out about the sex profile pic though?

Well, good that you dumped based on your later posts.

BUT - I would totally do this if I were OLD. Give out my number that I've had for years to randoms all over the place? No bloody way!

It's not just blocking them - a friend's ex give her phone number out to lots of people when they split just to cause her hassle - registering her interest in double glazing and insurance and all sorts - she had cold calls for months.

I would definitely have that extra level of security and have an 'impersonal' phone number, I would have though loads of people would.

Not yet.
It's probably something like a bound woman. Black and white, angled to show her hands and ankles restrained or something of the sort. They're very popular with the OLD Sex Pests.

I'd like to imagine it is some elaborate balloon sculpture sprouting from betwix his hairy cheeks though. Make it interesting.

I knew one who had a special phone, he was a definite player.

Glad if you're moving towards ditching him, especially if he's kept messaging people on his sex/dating phone. And now hidden it online- does he think you're thick?

I think you either trust him or you don't.

The sex phone is weird, he should just be on kik if he wants random chats with people and remain anonymous.

@WanderingLost167

I think you either trust him or you don't.

The sex phone is weird, he should just be on kik if he wants random chats with people and remain anonymous.

Kik is a well known for being dodgy. When I did OLD, I refused to engage with any man who suggested I message him on kik.

Having a separate phone with a real number makes the owner seem authentic. The OP had no reason to suspect it wasn’t his primary phone although his profile picture did make her raise an eyebrow.

Can we have a clue about the sex photo ? In case someone else gets taken in ....

@MizMoonshine

Call him out on it. You can sit and speculate all night and day or you can get an answer and show us all his sex phone picture.

Love it And yes op, this ^^

@WanderingLost167

I think you either trust him or you don't.

The sex phone is weird, he should just be on kik if he wants random chats with people and remain anonymous.

I say no to any guy on kik. But I don't want random hook ups

He admitted he had been talking to other people on the hook up number since we’ve been exclusive

He's just given you a glimpse into your future if you stay with him. Bin immediately!

Chlamydia with legs indeed.