I feel like I've been dumped ..what do I do?

[betrixpotter]

18 months ago I started dating a guy.
We got on well then out of the blue he said he didn't want a serious relationship and that he was still sleeping around.
I said I was okay with it(I wasn't )
Christmas I broke down and cried to him and told him I really had feelings and him sleeping around hurt me.
He told me I knew what he was like and he told me I would get hurt.
Anyway he said no More sleeping together because it made me go "nuts".
He won't even meet me as a friend now.
We still text and chat on the phone every day.
I told him I would rather him in my life as a friend than nothing.
He won't meet up with me,I ask him and he says no because you know what will happen then you will go nuts when I sleep around again.
So basically he doesn't even like me as a person or a friend.
I'm hurt

Keto, that's a fair point. He should have been upfront from day 1. Either way, it's clear that it's time to go no contact OP. Obsessing is going to get you nowhere. Look after yourself. Distract yourself. And just move on

He sounds a right twat.

But... he has been honest with you. You knew you weren’t exclusive and he was seeing other people. You told him you were fine with that. He probably took that at face value. Next time, have the courage and self respect to say no, this isn’t what I want and move on.

Pick your self respect up from the floor and block and delete him. He doesn’t want to be your boyfriend and that’s what you want from him if you’re honest with yourself. Hanging around on the edges of him life hoping for scraps of his time will only demean you and make you feel bad about yourself. End it.

He's been honest from the get go
And your almost turning in to a stalker op

Stop torturing yourself

You need to know when it's time to walk away
Yes, he has been honest, but he also wants his cake and eat it. Lots of it
Calling you nuts just tells me that he doesn't have the emotional capacity for a proper relationship anyway.
I'm sorry.

You've been posting this same issue for months under different usernames.

You need professional help.

This here: "I told him I would rather him in my life as a friend than nothing". This reeks of desperation. No-one is fooled that you actually want to be his friend, including him. He is absolutely right to refuse to meet you. It would be kinder if he completely broke contact with you, but maybe he feels that should be your decision?

I don't think he has done anything wrong. He has been straight about what he wants, it is up to you to listen to that, accept what he is telling you and act accordingly.

Erm, have you ever read the book "He's just not that into you"?! And no offence meant at all, there will be plenty who are but they're not having the chance whilst you keep clinging on. You need to cut all ties. He's talking to you still because maybe he does feel bad, maybe he worries about what you might do... I don't know. Block, move on, think about how to develop more self respect and value yourself as that will show to men and accordingly, you'll be treated better.

You were dumped ages ago - before Christmas. He's told you he doesn't want a relationship, even a casual sexual one with you. He's been clear. I don't even think he's that awful. He probably responds out of guilt. Sorry to be blunt but I'm not sure what you're expecting. You can't be friends in these circumstances

He's not interested in you. Block him, delete him from everything move on.

@JorisBonson

You've been posting this same issue for months under different usernames.

You need professional help.

If it's not the same user name, how on earth can you know this.

This situation is hardly rare. It is incredibly common.

You can tell if it's the same user by the wording and style of writing often

Ok, I'm not hearing her 'voice'
but she doesn't come back to the thread. That is part of her modus operandi

Oh dear.....

Lots of love messing women around for the ego boast of having someone fancy them. Just walk away from him. He’s not mature. Doesn’t want a relationship, doesn’t want to deal with you “going nuts”, but doesn’t mind the adulation.

“Lots of love” ? !! Was supposed to say “lots of men love messing... ”!