If finances were no object, would you like to live on your own?

[rubyleemurray]

Just wondering how many people would prefer to live in their own house and their DP had their own house too, given the choice.

Pros:
-no requirement to adhere to someone else's standard of cleanliness or to put up with someone else's mess

• seeing each other becomes a conscious choice
• lots of peace and quiet and alone time when needed
• choosing own decoration and furnishings

Cons:

• missing each other if you have busy schedules
• not being seen by the rest of the world as a "serious" relationship

[SoulofanAggron]

I live on my own and always will.

It's worth any extra money it takes.

Soo relaxing. Highly recommended!

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

Brownies - your idea sounds perfect! I’m thinking mine will be a granny annexe to DP’s house

At the moment we have our own double beds at my house, which makes sharing much more bearable. If I had to share a bed with him I’d be much less keen!

[RandomMess]

After 20 years I would still prefer to live with DH, I love having separate bedrooms though 😂 if money no object we would have our own en suite each too.

[MarshaBradyo]

I’m undecided about separate bedroom. I like hanging around watching stuff in bed at night but snoring is a pain sometimes.

I would definitely have separate bathrooms in a jiffy though.

[RandomMess]

@MarshaBradyo we watch TV etc in bed together it's just when DH wants to go to sleep he disappears off to stop me from smothering hi and his snoring...

Would be nice if we both had a speaking bed with TV each and take it in turns to visit!

[WinterAndRoughWeather]

We’re the same RandomMess, we spend quite a lot of time in bed together - watching tv, reading, other stuff... At the weekend we have lie ins together.

We just don’t sleep together.

[LockdownLump]

We’re the same RandomMess, we spend quite a lot of time in bed together - watching tv, reading, other stuff... At the weekend we have lie ins together

We just don’t sleep together

Same. Seems like there's a lot of us.

I wouldn't want separate houses, but separate sleeping beds is absolutely ideal for us. The spare room has everything set up for watching the footy and all that.

I do not like TV's in the bedroom.

Also I fucking hate snoring.

Love living together, but if we had been forced to sleep with each other for the last 17 years, we'd be divorced 😂😂😂

[JamesArthursEyelashes]

We’ve joked about this but in reality we love living together. He’s my best friend and we are really close, we’ve been together for more than 20 years. We both do our own things though and have different interests and hobbies. I get to choose decor, he’s knows I have good taste. 🤣 We have a good sized house and I’ll often be in one room and him in another so we get time to ourselves. I don’t think we’ll ever split up but if we did, I wouldn’t live with anyone else. I’d never be that close to anyone else.

[MarshaBradyo]

We don’t have a tv but started using laptop when dd was born and in our room. Late to the party but watching This is Us atm, so good.

[bingowingsmcgee]

Yes we'd like two houses next door to each other. Dh is a bit of a hoarder, which is the main reason, he also snores like a train and likes the telly on all the time whereas I want peace and quiet. We may well do this when the kids are older. We love each other deeply and would never split up, but we each love our own space.

[SilverOtter]

Yes!

I would live in a beautifully proportioned period property full of original features and lovingly maintained antiques. There would be no television, just thousands of books! There would be a lovely garden, and lots of dogs, chickens and maybe a pony in an adjacent paddock.

My husband would live in some uber modern concrete and glass apartment occupying the entire top floor of a really tall skyscraper. It would be rammed to the rafters with tech, and nary a book in sight. No animals, plants or anything organic permitted!

Can you tell we have discussed this?!🤣 We love each other dearly and he is my best friend, but we have VERY different tastes!

[Ragwort]

Yes. We already have separate bedrooms & bathrooms and lead fairly separate lives ... lockdown has not been easy .

[lovellost]

I would love to live with a partner . I daydream about it everyday although I am aware it's not always rosey

[Nat6999]

My late partner & I always joked that we would love a flat each in the same building so that we could see each other when we wanted but if we wanted peace it would be great for one of us to disappear home. When we first got together we lived with my ds in a one bedroom flat in a converted terraced house, when the downstairs flat came vacant we actually viewed it to consider doing as we spoke about but it worked out cheaper to rent a house in a better area together.

[Allmyeye]

nancybotwinbloom

I’ve often thought that but I’d want a bolt on my side.

[AdultHumanFemale]

Oh my days, I would be out like a shot were it not for financial reasons. Living in separate but nearby houses would be bliss.

[HerRoyalNotness]

Absolutely!

[caribooshriek]

The snoring is the only real issue for me.

[Brefugee]

I did this for over a year several times (married to same person for a looong time, 2DC) and i loved it.

When i came back to live in the family home last time they were really miffed if i ever said "man, i miss my flat" so I only think it now ;)

[NoraLuka]

I am nearly 40 and have never lived on my own but would like to, just to see what it’s like. I have a feeling I might be a bit lost with nobody to cook for etc., which is a bit sad.

[Devlesko]

I think if you wanted to live on your own, you'd make sure finances weren't an object to stop you, surely.
happiness comes before money and you can get by on very little if something else is more important.

[PumpkinP]

I am the opposite to a lot on here and have never lived with anyone (apart from when I was a child obviously) I moved out at 16 and now 31 and have never lived with anyone, I do feel sad at being in my 30s and have never lived with a partner.

[corythatwas]

Nope. I like having him potter around. Like sitting down for a sudden spontaneous chat or just throwing each other a comment in passing. Also, I'd have to keep this new house clean on my own. A similar same amount of hoovering and dusting would probably need to be done- just one less person to do it.

We are moving towards separate bedrooms but that is partly about snoring and partly because he is disturbed if I read in bed late at night and at 50+ I can't face the rest of my life without reading myself to sleep.

I liked living alone before we married and have nothing against being alone per se, but now I just like his company.

[ShrimpSymphony]

This would actually be the dream. When we move in a few years separate bedrooms is the dealbreaker for me. We love each other and are happily married btw but you need your own space.

[susandelgado]

Oh God yes! Just me and a small dog