@Toohardtofindaproperusername I didn't pick that up from the wording of the OP.. in fact she speaks explicitly of it being quite other than "fluffy"...
Good user name btw, so true! She said it was hard with him being mean. Not hard having a baby. That part had not been mentioned at all.
And he's out of order - but if anyone told us that having sex with someone you thought/assumed had taken steps would result in family and societal pressure to give up dreams of travelling, money, freedom and free time (every ow plus maybe a night a week) You would be upset. I would.
It's why abortions are legal because no one has the right to force us to have babies. True it's totally different for him. But unless he's scum and his parents are scum he WILL be expected to cough up money, get involved etc. The govt wil go after him for child support, so bang goes his (no doubt teenage) dreams of buying a car, holidays with mates, moving abroad etc. Not to mention buying a property or even meeting someone else.
We all know it may not be that bad for him, But yo him right now it's the end of the world. And it probably will have a serious impact on his life - so let's not pretend it won't. And he did not choose or want it and yes he could have worn a condom.
But if it was the reverse he would not be able to force her to keep it. He would be a POS for even trying to do that. I think if she wants to do it she needs to keep him out of it. Cut ties and make her own way.
He's being horrible because he doesn't want this and that's not likely to change - even if he loves the baby he will resent her. I've seen it a million tones - even in married people. Men HATE 'surprise' babies and having to marry someone because of it and underneath it all they resent the mother even though they love the children. I'm not agreeing but that's how it goes.