I'm dating a guy scared of commitment...what do I do?

[slouchytee]

We met and for the first two months he was great.
I had no concerns.
Then he backed away saying I was becoming "too coupley for him"
He started texting less and being distant.
When I asked why ..he said it was getting too much so he was backing away.
Then I back off and he comes back.
Now we were ok for a bit then randomly he said I was getting "too full on " again so now he's backed off again.
Few words texts,not ringing me
I know soon as I stop texting he will be flooding me with attention.
It's exhausting
What would you do?

Dump.

End it

Stop wasting your time

Ditch him. He'd couple up in a second if he thought you were the right person for him. As is he's just waiting for someone 'better' to come along.

He's stringing you along as back up

In the past, having sex would be a big sign of commitment. Bet he didn't think of that when he wanted to sleep with you, did he?

Don’t waste your time - this will not change. He sounds very childish and just wants to keep his options open.

Leave him. He can comeback and try to win you back and you can ignore him until he realises how ridiculous he looks.

This man doesn’t care about you. Please do not waste a single precious second of your life on him.

I would start dating someone else and ignore him.

Well it's not going to change, so end it. Tell him in no uncertain terms to not come onto you again, you're done with that nonsense

I know soon as I stop texting he will be flooding me with attention

Which you won't even know about because if you're sensible you'll block him on everything and move on.

I used to think I was a commitment phobe. Then I met someone I really really liked and realised I would have happily committed to him. Things didn’t work out, and I’m back to avoiding commitment with other people. But it’s not that I’m a commitment phobe, I just haven’t met anyone else I like as much.
Your guy sounds like far too much hassle. You have already given him another chance. Don’t waste your time any longer. If he was really bothered he would be scared of you losing interest.

He's an idiot, get rid.

Dump him

I had this. I finished it as soon as I realised I was an option not a priority. Better off alone than with Mr Wrong.

Move on. You can't meet anyone else while you're wasting time on this guy.

Anyone who says they don't want a relationship means that they don't want a relationship with you.

You will be strung along by this guy for months or even years just for him to get a girlfriend the week after. Get out now.

"too coupley for him". = Only wants to see you for sex and not bother with doing nice (coupley) things together.

Get shut and pick up your self esteem because while ever you're with him, he'll crush it

Move on.
He's not worth it.

Unless you want to be messed around of course. But I'm assuming not.

Get rid. He appears to want friends with benefits, you want a boyfriend.
It will be exhausting, move on for your own good.

Have a little look at FDS OP.
Why are you wasting your time on him?

Nope. He's not for you, and you're not for him.

If you want to have a relationship as opposed to some exhausting, juvenile game you don't even know the rules to, just block this fucker on everything and move on.

This. He's deliberately undermining you and wants to keep you second guessing both yourself and him. He just wants you to dance to his tune. Delete, block, move on.

I’m seeing a guy with commitment issues. His long term relationship was with an abusive partner and he is now wary of my becoming a target for her (happened with the last woman he dated). He doesn’t want to move in together ever. I’m ok with that. However we speak everyday. He doesn’t blow hot and cold (but he will let me openly if I hit a nerve). We make effort to see each other. We have plans for next weekend. His parents know I exist. He’s met my DD (as my friend).

It’s very slow in terms of any sort of “blending” of our lives (we’ve been seeing each other a year). However we are monogamous and he doesn’t make me feel unsure about how much he likes me. I know he really cares for me. I’m not sure if this level of lack of commitment is for me in the long run (He knows this) but for now we are happy.

The hills are this way >>>> RUN!

"too coupley for him". = Only wants to see you for sex and not bother with doing nice (coupley) things together

This. Do what everyone says and dump him.