Marriage breaking down - 3 kids - newborn

[Lolapixie2012]

Hi I am literally writing this crying .
I need help / advice !
Me and my husband have been together for 15 years - only married for 2 . We have 2 daughters 8 and 6 - and now a newborn baby boy .

Our marriage hasn’t been working for a very long time . I think it’s hard because we care about each other a lot and always will but we do not get on . We’re two different people - I think we’ve just grown apart. I’m 35 so we’ve practically grown up together .
Our girls have witnessed us arguing - a lot . Swearing because of fraustration . He’s lost his job now so he’s rock bottom . He’s always been successful but now his confidence is so low.

My question is -should I end our marriage? How will I cope with two girls and a 10 week old baby ?
Has anyone done it ?? I think I want to be on my own - he’s in bed now and it’s 1pm ! I’ve had to ask his mum to help me today because he won’t get out of bed . What do I do :(

I hope someone can help me

Hi Lolapixie2012. I am sorry you are going through this.
What do you think will change if you end your marriage? Do you think you might have more space for yourself to think clearly? Or does part of you hope your husband will change and things will become better?
If I were you I would take it one step at a time. First, get some headspace. If you have family you can count on, take a break from your husband with some (or all ) of the kids. The separation might help. A newborn adds a lot of stress to the equation. So bear that in mind.
It sounds like he needs help. A visit to the GP to get him the support he needs. You can't be expected to do that when you have children and a newborn to look after.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Perhaps ask MNHQ to move your post to the relationships board?
I'm sure you will get lots of helpful advice there

We're moving this thread to our Relationships topic for the OP.

Sorry you’re having a rough time. I hope you’ve got a bit of support meantime in real life. Dont make any rash decisions try and get a bit of time so you can think things through. Are you working/on mat leave - can you find out how you’d manage alone. Contact citizens advice etc? Its awful if your kids are seeing you argue. What are you rowing about?