Cancelling 1st date after extra pics

[Zayn1]

Hi all, im a dedicated reader of these threads and have never started my own but could really do with a bit of wisdom please...so im newish to OLD and matched with someone who seemed really nice. He has seen my pics of my profile and seemed keen to meet. We arranged a coffee and a walk tomorrow, location and time confirmed. Then he asks for another pic as he had sent me one that was taken in his office that morning. So i sent a recent pic where i look the same as in my profile pics as my profile pics are all very recent and i get a message about 5 mins later saying although i look nice and seem nice, im not his type and therefore will cancel
I have had a few dates with people that i have met online and nothing negative has ever been mentioned about my appearance or looking like a different person in real life. In fact the last date told me i look younger in real life which was a bit of a confidence boost 😀
Im overthinking this now but surely he knows what i looked like before arranging the date and 5 mins after seeing a very similar pic, now im not his type!! Feeling a bit rubbish tbh and wondering if anyone has had anything similar. Thanks

How lucky are you that you didn't waste a clean outfit , make up and hair attention on this waste of space !

What a shame you blocked him! What @butterpuffed said was brilliant!

Just reply 'Phew, what a relief. I thought the same about you but was too polite to mention.’

^^

He’s just a time waster. Lucky he didn’t drag you out on a date and then try to pull this number. There are some right twats on OLD.

OP you are so much better off not meeting him! Dodged a billet there!

*bullet 🙄

Married bloke who bottled it.

In general with Internet dating there’s a lot of slightly weird encounters/microaggressions which can get quite emotionally strenuous after a while. Regular breaks and learning to block/detach ASAP are good.

Perhaps on receipt of your extra photo he was so intimidated by your beauty that he felt he couldn’t go through with it?

Isn’t this a bit like a man getting in touch because he likes the look of you, then speaking on the phone and getting on fine but then demanding a video call before meeting in person? This just happened to me and I lost interest because it felt like he was buying a horse and wanted a physical inspection before committing to an actual meeting.

FizzAfterSix I think people just want to make sure they are meeting the person in the pic. It’s a good thing ime.

The awful thing is he knows sending the response he did after you sent the pic was going to hurt you. That's not a nice person.

Thank your lucky stars you didn't waste 3 quid on a coffee and a couple of hours of your life on a negging wanker like that. Ugh.

When my best friend was on OLD she had some bloke randomly message her to tell her she was fat and probably smells disgusting. There's some weird sick knobheads out there. She told him to fuck off.

Back before I met DH, I had been chatting for over a month and talk of meeting with a guy, but when I suggested it again he disappeared! Never heard from him again but he was still on the site.

Best to ignore the arseholes and carry on being your fabulous self!

He’s shallow OP. You had a lucky escape. I met my Fiancé online 4 years ago. He wasn’t my type at all but there was something about him. So, I met him and found his personality to be just lovely and everything I wanted in a partner. The attraction grew from that. Now we’re very happy, bought a house together and getting married next year.
The point of my post was to let you know, that people really miss out when they focus so much on looks and they generally don’t find their ideal match.