Should i leave my husband?

[em1981]

SHOULD I LEAVE MY HUSBAND?

Hi everyone, this is the first time ive been on the site but im in desperate need of advice. I found out last nite from my husband that he cheated on me just over a year ago with a work collegue. He says it was at a work do and he was very drunk. What makes it worse is that i was seven months pregnant with our daughter at the time. He only decided to tell me yesterday because he thinks he has a STD and may have passed it on to me! I feel so betrayed on so many levels, any advice? Should i give him a second chance but forever be wondering if he's done it again, or leave him. x

Maybe she has parents or friends or something.

she already said she was staying at parents because of commute

i went to the womans house last night, i had to see what she looked like.

And what happened?

I hoped to meet the husband to tell him, but she answered the door. I nearly died so is so pretty! Tiny body and huge tits, you know the type i mean. She knew it was me and tried to close the door. The husband came out and i told him to get a std test as his wife had unprotected sex with my husband. As calm as a cucumber he said, i know, we have an understanding

This in itself isn't worth separating/getting a divorce over.

I think you and your husband need to talk, maybe with the help of a counsellor.

we had a long chat yesterday and yes i do still love him. We've had seven happy years together and i cant believe it could all end because of this. He told me that she had tried it on during the past two work do's but been unsuccessful. He said he felt proud for turing her down and cant believe he did it. (third time lucky for her!!!)

my god, what is wrong with people?? Your DH sounds like he has a mega ego. Proud for turning her down??? FFS, he shouldnt have even been tempted. I would have expected him to come home and say, oh some dirty slut has tried it on with me tonight, stupid cow. But anyway, men and their ego's.

Does he still have contact/work with this woman? She must be some sort of rank bitch, never mind that she is pretty, she can't have any respect for herself and niether can her husband.

Saying all that, if you feel your DH is being truthful and you still love him, you have to ask yourself if you can bear to walk away, if you can't, give it a go. But i have to say this, my father had an affair, my mum took him back, i wish they stayed apart, he came back for me apparently. My mum made his life hell because she could never forget what happened. You need to be sure you can get past this. If it was a one night stand, i think you can. But he is a coward for not owning up at the time.

Hey em1981 - You deserve a pat on the back having a civil adult conversation with your husband to hear what he had to say rather than scratching his eyes out (which is probably what I would have done )

Didn't you say this tart also slept with you dh's brother as well???? If so did that not tip him off what kind of skank she was???? I can just imagine the time of woman she is....a bet she really massaged his ego and made him feel the most desirable bloke on this planet.

I have to say the tart's husbands response is the creepiest....she obviously goes out looking for men to make him jealous.

yeah she did sleep with my husbands brother an at the time my husband was disguested. Apparently my husnabd had a huge argument with her because she was married. She said all men could be tempted.

This just proves my theory.....men are incapable of free thought when they are horny! So how the hell did he justify being with the tart????

proud for turning her down!!!thats the point i would have killed him if not before really sorry the twat is putting you through this

He said he was drunk...the typical line. He cant have been that drunk, he still got it up. He hasnt been in contact with her since he left his job which was a few weeks after it happened. Apparently he did approach her to say what a terriblle mistake he had made and how he would loose everything if i found out. She said her husband knew what she was like.

so what next em1981? Has he moved back in?