Just got back from a week in the Med with DP and the kids.
From the start DP constantly moaned at the kids. "Do this, do that, don't do that, stop doing that" etc etc and it was getting tiring quite quickly.
It was their first time abroad and on the first night they played up, wouldn't go to sleep and kept shouting silly comments at us. DP then turned around to me and said "that's it, i'm spending nothing on them tomorow...you can if you want but they wont be getting anything off me."
I thought this was a bit of an over-reaction but they're not his kids so fair enough.
Next day, he went off at my 8 year old and started getting at me telling to me tell him off...what was he doing? singing. He had an ipod on and was singing in the car. DP turned the radio right up and then said to me "will you tell him!" so I said "he's only singing" so he said "I cant be doing with his whiney voice, I wouldn't mind if he could sing but he's tone deaf" he's 8! so we ended up having a row about that.
This kind of thing went on all week, another example was when they started being silly during dinner and DP started kicking off saying they were embarrasing when everyone around us (including other guests and staff) were laughing WITH the kids.
The final straw came on Monday night. We had driven into town to go bowling. I told the kids that we were going on a suprise so they were all excited. Anyway during the trip my 6 year old asked DP if they could have a play fight later. DP snapped "NO". So DS got a bit cheeky and said "well we're having one anyway". DP then involves himself in a big argument with my 6 year old and finishes it with "I said no, I mean no, If I say no, I mean no, not yes, it means no, no means no" and he went on like that for ages. DS2 burst out laughing, DS1 burst out laughing and it did sound bloody funny so I burst out laughing. DP then said "that's it, had enough, we're going back to the hotel".
He then drove us all back to the hotel, kids upset and asking what the suprise was and then when we got to the hotel I let rip and told him that he'd spoilt the holiday by being a miserable bastard and he said he didnt care. My 6 year old then said "wish you never came with us" and DP replied "I wish I hadnt too you little git" .
Anyway, to try and cut a long story short, DP went off on his own that night with the car and left us stranded in hotel. My attempts to talk to him when he got back fell flat when he said he wasn't interested. Next day we'd pre-booked a cruise. He ignored me before it started, I again attempted to talk to him only for him to say there was nothing to talk about. All day long on the cruise he ignored me. That night (which was the final night of our holiday) he went off with the car and left me and the kids in the hotel on our own.
I warned him that if he didnt talk to me whilst we were there, it was over. He said he didn't care and wanted it to be over. I said fair enough but I knew full well that as soon as we got home he'd start pleading forgiveness and feel sorry for himself.
Needless to say, it's started. He's texting me saying he's sorry and wants to talk etc.
Please advise. Do I just get rid or allow him to talk to me now that he's ready? Did I over-react in the first place?