AIBU for being annoyed with "partner"

[Elvispop12345]

My "partner's" ex will only allow him to see his child at her house with her yesterday she attacked me when I dropped him off by pulling my head thru my open car window and ripping my hair out (I called the police as had it on video) but it turns out my partner tells her things about me like that Iam trying to get my child's father to pay child support even though he chose not to see her and about arguments we have and the fact we don't use condoms during sex, also after she did what she did yesterday he walked into her house and left me alone during the day and told me he would break up with me if I phoned the police! The whole thing is completly childish as I have not even said a bad word to this "girl" she also chose to do all this in front of her poor child! Am I being unreasonable to be angry he discusses things with her and went of with his ex and his daughter instead of coming home with me to make sure I'm okay as I was pretty shook up by the whole thing and was shaking the rest of the drive hom? He says his ex will always come before me as she's his baby's mum is that normal?

It sounds like you were expecting trouble as you had your phone out ready to video the event when you were driving ?
If so why did you not drop him off at the end of the road so you didn’t have to get involved .
The whole situation could’ve been avoided .

This is not a man who is worth your time OP. Bin him (or at least use condoms)

Leave him op. There are plenty of men out there who will be honest and love you without all the bullshit drama you're having to deal with now

Two words: lucky escape.

He's shown you who he is. He stood by when his ex attacked you and went off with her afterwards AND he's been badmouthing you.

Run a bloody mile and then some.

Why are you not using condoms??

This man is using you for sex. You have no future together. The end

No way would I put up with this! Get out while you still can, what if you get pregnant with this loser, your life would be hell!

I think the key point is he actually gave you the answer "He says his ex will always come before me as she's his baby's mum is that normal?"
Fine that his baby comes first but the arrangement with his mum should be a formal one not an emotional one.
He hasn't moved on if he thinks that.

How long have you been together?

His ex shouldn’t come before you. The child does obviously but not the ex.

Why did she attack you? Are her and your partner still sleeping together?

Maybe an 'ex' should be in front of that 'partner'? For me it would definitely be there, as of the minute he supported his 'ex' physically assaulting me, and having found out about the extent of his betrayal of me to his ex.

You shouldn’t stay with him if he is not going to side with you when his ex attacks you.
I second what PP said: how classy (not!)
Call the police and report the assault in front if her child.

In his tiny little brain, who would "come first" if you guys had a baby togther?

Fuck sake do you really need to ask OP ????

Ditch him & the drama. The very least he could do is back you up with regards to her unreasonable behaviour I.e not threatening you with break up if you call the police ?

Jeez. Just walk away.

Let's hope you are not pregnant already. With twins.

Leave them to it. Why would you want him to come back to you now. Leave with your head held high.

Continue with the police matter and end the relationship with him.

There's no future in this and he doesn't care about you. You actually shouldn't want a future with a man like him anyway.

From everything you said, I can't see why she attacked you....despite him divulging personal information to her.

OP, punctuation would really help, I can’t understand that last thing you typed.

@GarlicMcAtackney
Then don't respond.
All the responses here show that we have all understood, so leave us to it!

@GarlicMcAtackney
That’s very helpful when someone is in a state because they have just been assaulted. OP needs the police, not the grammar police

we stopped using protection as we was getting on great

Getting on great is not a reason to stop using protection.

Block him, have nothing further to do with him and press charges against her.

No it’s not normal. He’s still involved with her, at least emotionally if not physically. Get rid, it will eat away at your self esteem.

The fact that any of you have children is depressing.

He says his ex will always come before me as she's his baby's mum is that normal?

No it’s not. He sounds like a prick who’s still got feelings for/still sleeping with his ex. Do yourself a favour and dump this loser!

Is this what people do nowadays- ditch their contraception when they're getting along nicely? Isn't the average number of kids per couple still just two point something?

Sounds like it's already over. You don't live together do you?