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Is OLD really that bad??

40 replies

PumpkinP · 30/06/2020 21:07

I’m 31 and have been single a few years (over 3) I am a lone parent and do really miss having a relationship, as I’m a lone parent I don’t really get the opportunity to go out and meet men so I was thinking of trying old but all I ever hear is horror stories! My sister joined hinge and deleted it 24 hours later as she said they were all crazy! Same on here all you see is so many horror stories. Does anyone have any positive stories of OLD?

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ravenmum · 30/06/2020 21:21

Yes, but the horror stories are much more fun :)

Bookaholic73 · 30/06/2020 21:22

Not at all, as long as you pick the right sites and are incredibly selective and careful.

I met my now DH while OLD.

skyblue27 · 30/06/2020 22:05

I also met my hubby online dating

Lucky0707 · 30/06/2020 23:29

I think nowadays everyone meets at work or online. I work in a male dominated profession and north of 30 friends start settling so online is the only way.

Lampan · 01/07/2020 08:06

Hinge is absolutely awful unless you want the same parade of people coming round again and again. Tinder is a mixed bag, but there are definitely normal people on there if you are selective!

Yaottie · 01/07/2020 08:09

OLD is fairly horrific and you really get to see some terrible people but if you're picky, firm about your boundaries and able to say no sorry to people you'll be OK. I met my fiance on tinder so they're not all bad!

crimsonlake · 01/07/2020 08:12

I think as you are young you will be okay and there will be plenty to sift through and choose from. Agree you need to be very selective and have firm boundaries. The older you get the worse it becomes.

Sunshineandflipflops · 01/07/2020 08:15

I met my bf online. I kissed a few frogs before I met him and also had a lot of fun too but I was very selective about who I met as I am also a single parent and my free time is precious!

I used Match to start with - you have to pay a subscription but it felt a little less scary to start with. I then realised that most of the men were also on the free sites so used Bumble and Tinder and met my bf on Bumble.

Pumpertrumper · 01/07/2020 08:19

I met my hubby OLD, we’re both totally respectable and normal people 😂 (he’s a Dr and I work in insurance) we’ve just had a baby.

-met on tinder

HansBanans · 01/07/2020 08:19

Good friends of ours met on Tinder. They're now married and have a baby. It works for some people 😊

Heatherjayne1972 · 01/07/2020 08:20

You need a thick skin and a low tolerance for nonsense

But lots of people have found someone special online

weathervane1 · 01/07/2020 08:22

I met man long- term partner on Match Affinity. Paid a monthly subscription and completed an extensive profile with pre-set and free format questions. After several email and telephone exchanges, we met for a drink in a public place, and four hours later realised we hadn't stopped chatting in order to eat and the rest is history. On-line dating is fine but as with any meeting opportunity, it can and does provide a place for less savoury individuals to try their luck. You just need to decide what you want, be selective and do some careful filtering and chatting prior to meeting. You are right about the horror stories posted on here but to be fair, it's not human nature to post about the successes so readily.

weathervane1 · 01/07/2020 08:22

I met MY* long- term....

TheStuffedPenguin · 01/07/2020 08:26

Met my H online on POF. I was also on Match and had a few dates off that - most of them decent men. Would never have met him otherwise and he lived really close to me !

Buggedandconfused · 01/07/2020 08:30

I’ve met most of the nicer men on Bumble. Hinge is ok - Tinder and POF I wouldn’t go near.

You do have to kiss a LOT of frogs.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 01/07/2020 08:31

I met my partner on tinder.

You just have to be ruthless online. If you read a 3 line profile and think “that’s a bit of a red flag”, don’t ignore it, they’ll turn out to be a twat. If you’re lowering your standards and giving someone the benefit of the doubt, you’ll usually regret it later.

It’s pretty easy to spot the truly awful ones and swerve them. And you will get messages from men your dad’s age which make you feel yuck.

cariadlet · 01/07/2020 08:32

I think it depends on what site you use. My dsis met her partner through OLD. They've been living together for a few years now. It worked for her.

RickDeckard · 01/07/2020 08:34

It's pretty good, but hit and miss. I have been on an uncountable number of first dates, and there's been some amazing shockers. Plenty of second dates which lead to realising not for me.

Then a string of 2-5+ dates which were really good fun, great company and lots of chemistry, but ultimately went nowhere, or agreed FWB/FB.

Then I met someone at work that changed my world. So IRL was still best for me, but OLD was a great experience, with lots of crazy stories and met some really nice people.

Bagelsandbrie · 01/07/2020 08:34

I met dh through plenty of fish 12 years ago. You just have be prepared to have a laugh at the idiots and block and delete without mercy.

firstimemamma · 01/07/2020 08:38

I met my wonderful fiancé through OLD at the start of 2015. We were 25 and 26 and it was his first online date and my second (first one was a disaster!).

We have our own home, a beautiful ds and are hoping to get married next year. Couldn't be happier.

Give it a go and have an open mind would be my advice Smile

Russiandolleyes · 01/07/2020 08:39

I met my DH on Tinder. He was the fourth man I met up with, so no horror stories for me! He's the most incredible partner and father to our toddler and I just wouldn't have met him without OLD (him being childless with a buzzing social life and me being a mother of two who hated being approached in real life!)
I hated POF and OKCupid because people could message you that you hadn't 'vetted' in any way. I would suggest sticking to the ones that only allow messaging if you have 'swiped' or whatever. Limits the batshit and ick.

YearOFF · 01/07/2020 08:43

I met mine via OLD. I met lots of nice guys actually. I met a few weird guys, but it wasn’t too hard to spot when you are chatting for a week or 2 before you meet.

jellybean85 · 01/07/2020 08:45

Another one who met my DH online! Definitely be selective Grinif you're patient though it can be fun to meet new people and ended up great for us

RLGGG · 01/07/2020 08:46

Yes!! Met my husband on Tinder, now very happily settled in our own home and expecting our first baby very soon. I had a number of broken hearts and very strange experiences before I met my one but actually look back at the OLD time of my life and smile, it was quite the rollercoaster!

My advice would be, as PP said, go in with an open mind but also look after your own well being!! Both emotional and physical. Don't fall too hard for anyone too fast, remember just like you, any guys you meet will also be talking to many other people... chat and enjoy getting to know lots of guys and wait a while to commit to anyone in particular :)

InkieNecro · 01/07/2020 08:48

It's not awful, you just need to be very stringent with your criteria for how they message you. This is their best behaviour, so any pushiness will get worse. Block, don't need to explain or justify it.

Other than that, have fun!

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