My husband and I have been married nearly a year. We've had quite a few issues in that time but a few months ago we decided to draw a line and move and try harder to make it work. Things have been overall better and we've had somr nice moments, mostly until Monday this week.
I don't work Mondays but I had a dentist appointment in the town I work on. I get on really well with my colleagues and so I planned to pop into work and say hi, and also grab a disposable face mask, as the dentist requested you wear one.
So I go to leave about 15 minutes early and tell my husband what I'm doing. He says 'why don't you just wear the reusable one I use on the bus?' so I just say oh no its okay thanks this seems easier. I feel like a normal person would leave it there?
He starts getting agitated and questioning why I wouldn't use his one, that it doesn't make any sense etc. I stayed calm the whole time and just said this was just what I'd planned to do and it suits me etc. I said the dentist might prefer a more sterile brand new mask.
I left with us in a bad place. I came home and he said sorry in a fairly insincere tone, I still felt a bit attacked so I just said that I wish we could both accept sometimes we will approach things differently. This reignited him and he kept Yelling the same stuff as earlier at me. I kept saying it really doesn't matter its just a face mask?
He carried on to the point I started crying. I didnt say anything but he just responded with 'tears aren't a weapon you know'.
We kind of patched stuff up since but I still feel so upset that he could suggest for a second I was crying to manipulate him in any way and be so cold to me.
Since the argument I have had stomach cramps and nausea on and off and I'm not sure if it's related. I feel so upset, I was thinking I need to talk to him mors today.
What would you do/think of this behaviour?