Prostitute comment from DP

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A friend was talking to DP about cheating and he came out with, "I don't know why people cheat and risk ruining their lives when they can just get a prostitute."

Would this be a reason to leave? She's thought before that he might've dabbled in prostitutes but obviously no evidence.

Personally, I don't think that's a normal response unless you're into prostitutes.

(Are there any men on here for advice?)

I think at the very least the comment feels kind of misogynistic to me. I'm not completely anti 'sex work', but I think it's something about how he phrases it:- 'just get a prostitute' as if the prostitute was an object you can buy/use.

Your friend is a lunatic for staying then OP. As a woman I'm not sure why anyone would stay with someone who is so clearly a misogynist with some deeply uncomfortable views about prostitutes not being real women, even the wording is vile- "get" a prostitute, like it's an it or like picking up a paper. Not a real human being who is likely in a vulnerable situation to boot.

The ones that say they "don't see the point" in cheating are usually the ones who are and are covering their back so your friend might want to have regularly sexual health checks, especially if he has openly admitted it would be a prostitute he would sleep with...

Your friend is an idiot

Men seem to have compartmentalised brains. To many of them, sex is sex, love is love, and they cross over but don't have to, and neither do the ethics. Of course it's ridiculous: cheating is real cheating even if it's "just sex" - but a surprising number of men don't think like that. Until they get caught. Then they usually clue in.

Your ‘friend’ needs an sti check

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Your ‘friend’ needs an sti check

Yes. I can't see that comment about prostitutes entering the minds of most men unless they've had some reason to think of them, ie, used them.

I'd dump, personally. Life is too short to be wondering if a partner was cheating, and seeing a prostitute is still cheating.

So I’m assuming he thinks if it’s just a sexual thing (no emotions/prostitutes) it doesn’t count as cheating... IMO only a cheater would have that mind frame.

Of course it's ridiculous: cheating is real cheating even if it's "just sex" - but a surprising number of men don't think like that. Until they get caught. Then they usually clue in.

I'd would be real cheating if the woman was having sex with male escorts though, wouldnt it.

Yes. I can't see that comment about prostitutes entering the minds of most men unless they've had some reason to think of them, ie, used them.

Not long ago I was having a conversation with a couple of female friends about a male friend of mine who is a middle aged virgin, due to crippling anxiety and inability to form any kind of intimate relationship.

One of them asked "why hasn't he just bought it?" (ie, sex).

I'm pretty sure it wasn't because she uses prostitutes herself.

I'm surprised he said it in front of his partner but it is kinda true. A sex worker is very unlikely to contact you after the call, very hot on sti screening & safe sex won't turn up pregnant & won't be falling in love & looking for a relationship.

I'd finish it with him, she's not been with him long no children ect. I'd be off. This might be something he does on the quiet. X

It is just an iffy comment, I have heard it said many times over the years. People say all sorts of odd ball comments, you just have to ignore it all, or feel sorry for them having a crap mindset.