I am a healthy girl and have been since my late teens. My husband’s long term ex was really slim. He compared me to her one day. Since that day I have been dieting my ass off with added fuel from the day we got in an argument and he fat shamed me really bad in front of my mother in law. He often talks about how attractive and sexy women look who pass by us when we’re out for a walk or in a film we’re watching together. He thinks a size 8 is really sexy but I’m a size 20/22 now fitting into 14/16. He would make jibes at me and little jokes about being fat in general; indirects. He’s never called me beautiful and meant it or ever truly made me feel that way in fact it’s been the opposite where I wear an outfit and I think I look decent but he’d say the opposite and make me paranoid enough to change. I feel he always finds faults in my appearance from my makeup style to telling me people my size should wear baggy clothes because I don’t have the body to show off in snugger fit clothing. He wasn’t always the muscular build he is now but he doesn’t seem to remember how hard losing weight is and the effects negative comments can have. He’s all about appearance which is why this feels like a big deal to me but my problem here probably is soo petty lol.