Hi, mumsnet help needed.
I've been dating a lovely man now for 8 months. He is separated from his wife (was for 18 months before I met him) he has 3 children and has them 50/50 with his ex.
I'm having a red flag moment because, he won't tell his ex that he is seeing me. I asked him just before lockdown if he was going to tell her and he said he wanted to know if we were 100% and in it for the long run before he told her.
I understand that telling the children is a huge massive deal, however, I think his ex should know about me.
How long did it take for your oh to tell their ex partners they were seeing someone else and how long did it take to tell the children?
Btw I am mid 40s with a grown up daughter and he knows that I would be happy to meet his kids whenever he's ready and when he thinks they would be.
I just feel his ex should know he's dating me.