Do you think I text him too much?

[simdd]

This last week I've noticed.
I text him a lot.
It's me starting the conversation a lot of the time.
He reply's and continues the conversation but I feel like I'm annoying him.
Sometimes he ignores me for hours (this is why I think I'm annoying him )
Il text him on a morning then carry on the conversation all day (or try )
Today I'm trying to wait for him to text first(maybe show him I'm not glued to my phone)
Do you think I'm texting far too much ?

To be fair to the OP, it might not be her - there must be thousands of women out there putting up with this kind of crap, and with lockdown they have more time on their hands to think about nothing else ☹. And actually if it is her who keeps posting, so what? If a friend of yours kept saying she was going to leave an abusive man and then didn't, would you just lose patience or would you keep trying to help?

If a friend of yours kept saying she was going to leave an abusive man and then didn't, would you just lose patience or would you keep trying to help?

I would keep trying to help but my approach and advice would be different if it (this very obviously unhealthy relationship and communication) was happening with one guy, for a little while versus it happening with one guy for months on end or happening with every guy all the time.

If it's the same poster again she needs help, I'm not saying that to be snarky - it is so unhealthy to have this dynamic and keep going back for more and more.

Under this username there are a couple of threads about this, on one of them OP says she gets nothing out of the relationship and it makes her feel shit about herself and she wishes she could end it.

I think she should be encouraged to act on that and end it, get some help maybe some counselling so she can then move forward and have healthy happy relationships in future.

But she posts and then stops replying (fine she doesn't owe anyone a reply) and it means she misses out on being able to have help and support to get happier.

Yes. Always wait for him to text first

OP - you are clearly someone who thinks she needs a man in her life. This one is a waste of your time. You might believe us all after 3 more threads. Or not.
Say "bye, it's not working for me" to this man today and get hunting online for your next right now. Snap up a man who was lonely through lockdown and is looking for a relationship and commitment. Something good might as well come out of Covid.

@simdd

I'm just backing off. I haven't text him He hasn't text me so clearly doesn't want to speak. I'm keeping busy with other things. I need to sort my mental health out and not let him be the only thing in my life

It isn't that he clearly doesn't want to speak - he is not deliberately 'ignoring' you.

I couldn't be messaging someone back and forth all day, it is just not something I want to spend my time doing. Perhaps he is the same.

Yes you’re texting too much. He might not text anyone much lol. I barley ever hold a proper conversation over text as 1- it gets boring 2- Id rather have a chat in person

As someone who is in a relationship with someone who texts far too much - I can categorically tell you the answer is YES!

Take the hint from him ignoring you for hours and give the poor guy a break. Let him text you first and just chill.

Haha this again.

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