Do you think I text him too much?

[simdd]

This last week I've noticed.
I text him a lot.
It's me starting the conversation a lot of the time.
He reply's and continues the conversation but I feel like I'm annoying him.
Sometimes he ignores me for hours (this is why I think I'm annoying him )
Il text him on a morning then carry on the conversation all day (or try )
Today I'm trying to wait for him to text first(maybe show him I'm not glued to my phone)
Do you think I'm texting far too much ?

Do you think if he's loosing interest there's anything I can do ?
Back off a bit?

Only text if he was the last one to text. If he txt good night last then it's your turn to txt good morning, otherwise it's his. Those are my rules.

But it doesn't sound like he makes you feel securely, consistently wanted.

What's happened with the 'on and off?'

In what other ways does he blow hot and cold.

I agree it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. He blows hot and cold so you're constantly chasing him for reassurance via responses by text. Stop texting and see how long it takes for him to contact you. Do you really want somebody who can't be bothered?

@NoMoreDickheads I wish I knew.
We could be going great,then I notice he backs off and tells me he wants to be single.
Then he comes back
Rinse
Repeat

@Badtasteflump that's exactly what I do.
You've hit the nail on the head.
I text him for reassurance and when it feels like he's changed I text him more to see if we are ok etc

OP, please look at the narcissistic cycle of abuse;

How many more of these threads ?

Actually, after reading your update, I'd say leave him to it forever. I have an ex who blew 'hot and cold,' I felt like if I left him to get in touch, we'd never talk again. It was a shitty feeling. You can do better.

Ok, so OP it's good you've recognised what's going on as you can now do something about it. Force yourself to break the cycle. Turn your phone off, or go out for a few hours without it. Force yourself to go a day (or just start with half a day) without texting him. Make more effort with friends/hobbies/family - anything other than him. At first it will feel horrible but you need to break this dependence on somebody who's making you feel shit.

OP has been posting the same problem for MONTHS - don't waste your good advice as it's just falling on deaf ears.

He's not that into you
He comes back because you're there and he can, nothing to do with liking you
If he liked and respected you, you wouldn't feel like this

Seriously OP, you're either posting these threads because you're totally bored and doing it to wind people up, or you really really really need to seek help for your mental health

If you have to keep the conversation going for reassurance, this is not the relationship for you.

You two don’t flow well. If you did, you wouldn’t need to ask this.

Go find yourself someone you don’t have to ask Mumsnet about because you have a great natural rhythm with them.

Blowing hot and cold for 15 months is not an indication that he is suddenly going to fall madly in love with you. I'd chalk this one up OP.

If he blows hot and cold, then I would leave it entirely.

Look up "intermittent reinforcement".

You've posted about him before.
Each time you're told to get rid.

What haven't you gotten rid of him?
There are a million guys out there. His crumbs aren't worth hanging around for.

[quote simdd]@NoMoreDickheads I wish I knew.
We could be going great,then I notice he backs off and tells me he wants to be single.
Then he comes back
Rinse
Repeat [/quote]
Oh my god. Find your self respect.

When a man says he does not want you, don't take him on again if he crawls back. That's it. Over. Bye.

Don't be someone's fall back option for inbetween times.

Stop messaging so much. Wait a day or two. Then message and ask whether he's wanting anything or not. Then move on.

You again? 🤦‍♀️

Have just seen PP. You definitely need to back off.

Honestly, if someone was trying to keep a conversation going with me all day, I’d throw my phone into the canal. That would drive me nuts!

I'm just backing off.
I haven't text him
He hasn't text me so clearly doesn't want to speak.
I'm keeping busy with other things.
I need to sort my mental health out and not let him be the only thing in my life

Yes, that much would do my head in

There isn't going to be a happy ending.
Guys like this get an ego boost from blowing hot and cold.

OP, can you for once confirm that you're the same poster who posts about this relationship regularly? You always ignore people who mention it...