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familys2018 · 12/06/2020 23:51

Just really need someone to talk to right now . Can't sleep and feeling pretty crap . I actaully think I'm in the wrong and feel guilty for brining it up . My partner works constantly. Every weekend early mornings to late evenings half the times also works away . This weekend he was supposed to of worked away but sad he didn't go because I had mentioned him working too much . I know this was a load of crap because he wouldn't give work up for me . Anyways I accepted what he said just for an easy night . He then said this weekend we will do what ever I want . Make food together . He will do me brekfast in the morning , watch movies all day and basically chill together . So I asked again if there's work take it and he said no this is my weekend . End of . That was Wednesday. Thursday I was in work and had a text saying I have been offered to work this weekend . Just checking with you if I should take it ? Now in my head obviously he wants to because he would of just said no and not of mentioned it to me . I replied go for it and he did . He was texting his boss earlier and I seen a text saying take it hour going to do Sunday aswell with a laughing face . He obviously knows he will and is taking the piss . For some reason it really upset me . I didn't say anything to him. So we came to bed and I was a little quieter than usual and he asked what was wrong I kept saying nothing because I know when ever I say something he doesn't like or criticises him he flips a bit . I just said I think you prefere work than being with me . And yip he lost it . I never lose it with him but I said god I fucking hate you on time's . I got a load of abuse back but I just turned over and pretended to
Go to sleep .that was 2 hours ago . He's fast asleep and I'm wide awake thinking maybe I'm being over sensitive. Iv ruined the whole weekend now he will ignore me for days because of this 😢

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familys2018 · 13/06/2020 18:33

Hi randomness my mother has told me the exact same thing as you . She hasn't really liked him from the start . I have lost all my friends because he didn't like the way I was before . I loved going to see my friends and going out . I was pretty wild 😂 too wild so I did need to calm down a bit but now I have been out 4 times in 9-10 years . And never see anyone . I have been realising all this these last few months . When I read back what I have wrote things do make me think things are a lot worse than I think x

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Thatnameistaken · 14/06/2020 11:04

Honestly you need to look at how you can get out of this situation, there is no magic wand to sort his head out, he will never change.
It sounds like you'll have your mum's support so remove this awful man from your life before he uses up any more of your precious years.

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RandomMess · 14/06/2020 11:15

Truly it's awful! You have made him the centre of your life and happiness yet he treats you like shit 😳

Please leave, go to your Mums and get the divorce rolling!

There is so much more out there waiting for you, friends and fun - people that WANT and WILL spend time with you.

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Candyfloss99 · 14/06/2020 11:48

He doesn't want to spend any time with you as he'd rather work but he also doesn't want you to spend time with anyone else? Wake up and realise what he's doing to you.

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IM0GEN · 14/06/2020 15:04

So y never see him as he’s working all the time. But you never go out with your friends either.

I think you are just the housekeeper he has sex with.

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EKGEMS · 14/06/2020 17:24

You really need to re-evaluate your choice in men because you have a real horse's ass

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LannieDuck · 14/06/2020 22:20

I don't play mind games at all.

No, but he does.

I loved going to see my friends and going out.

So do it! You have as much right to do things you enjoy as he does.

It sounds like you do all the housework? Do you work FT too? If so, why are you picking up his chores?!

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Dollyrocket · 14/06/2020 22:57

OP, the more you reveal the worse it gets.

You’ve given up on you’re whole life for the crumbs this man deems you worthy of.

He doesn’t need to change, you’ve made it loud and clear how willing you are to be his doormat..

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Dery · 15/06/2020 09:01

“OP, the more you reveal the worse it gets.

You’ve given up on you’re whole life for the crumbs this man deems you worthy of.”

This. You are absolutely right not to bring children into this situation. But do you want that to be your life? Through my voluntary work on non-molestation orders, I have known a few clients who have given up the opportunity for a family because they felt their marriage was too difficult or even dangerous a situation to bring children into, and now, when it’s too late, bitterly regret having given up the chance to have children rather than the marriage itself. If they had done the latter, they could have had a chance of family life with another man. Please don’t be them.