what do normal couples talk about?

[tinkerbella85]

what do normal couples have conversations about? ive been with my partner 5 years and i feel like im at a point where i feel we literally have nothing to talk about anymore. we come home from work quick hows ure day gone, tea, shower, usually slap some rubbish on the tv and then off to bed we go. and my partner will say we’ve barely spoken today. cos i feel like i literally have nothing to say, unless something consequential happened in my day im not really one for talking about work, ive been at work all day i dont really want to come home and then spend all evening talking about work!
quick conversations about the weather and the news and have we heard from family and that’s literally all we speak about!

I agree it's harder at the moment, if you are both at home, nothing much happening. We go through phases of not talking much, never discuss politics or current affairs as we have different views and just agree to disagree. Married over 30 years, definitely used to talk much more in the early days, long phone calls (years before mobiles) when we lived miles apart lasting up to 3 hours. Wouldn't do that now!

We’ve been together 15 years and have never run out of anything to talk about. We talk about our days, people we’ve interacted in, films, tv, music, news, books, celebs, things we’d like to do and places we’d like to go, memes, things we’ve found funny, family, friends, our town. The list is endless.

Our cat
Work
Tv
Politics
Debate topics
Guitars (boring)
Future plans - moving to the country, buying a house
Just general what’s going on in the world!

his & my family history anecdotes
our adult dc & gc planning visiting them etc
gardening & house hold plans
food &menus plans (we take turns)
& this morning when we had breakfast tea half watched a program on Baffin Island which lead to discussion & internet search on Artic Alaska glaciers & did you know that the Japanese invaded the Aleutians in ww2?
Coronavirus
Astronomy his hobby photography & his opinion (asked for!) on my drawing design
& lots of other things Current Affairs News
etcetc etc
we have been married more than 40 years

I think some people are happy just taking about anything. One persons fine is another persons dull. I found my exh dull to be honest. He never grew with life and eventually I became bored of him. I vowed after that to only get involved with someone who I had a lot in common with. We share a love of music, travel and share an interest in current affairs and the like so always have something to chat about.

Been with DH over 40 years 😊
We talk about
The garden, our cats' antics, what shall we have for lunch/dinner, when we will go shopping and what to buy, current affairs, #blm, politics , coronavirus stuff, about our past, both shared and separate, adult DC and their lives, difficulties with older adult DS, what's on TV, things to watch we've recorded, the finale of Killing Eve, how my music practice is going, how his latest engineering project is progressing, what is ready to harvest, what jobs need doing by each of us that day on the farm, the progress of my business, how we are each feeling, if either of us needs a bit of extra help, hugs, support, cuddles, oh loads of things
You know, stuff 🤗

for the first few years of our relationship we literally talked about EVERYTHING, we were friends in childhood so spent a lot of time reminiscing about old times, i think we've shared every memory and every experience we've had, talked about all our interests and loves and hates and we do generally have a lot in common, we like the same music, same films, same books, same games both massively interested in history, both love being outdoors and exploring new places, walking in countryside. it just feels like we’ve exhausted every topic to death i cant be bothered to talk about them anymore and i'm not a big talker anyways really, like i said unless something of relevance has happened i'm not really one for talking about every detail of my day. i suppose yes the situation has been made a whole lot harder as we are limited as to what we can do, but i think the only time we actually have a proper conversation about anything lately, is when we are discussing the weekly shopping list! everything just seems so boring and not worth talking about, i dont know if its just me, the situation we are in, or a sign that weve lost that connection in our relationship

We talk about the news, art (he is an artist), books, documentaries and films we have watched, memories, the future, our cats, work, friends and family, travel, cooking, gaming, gardening and plants (my thing). I am also into nature, animals and conservation so we talk about stuff we have seen online. He will tell me all about Trump's latest insanity in return.

We never really run out of stuff to talk about. We love going out to dinner and chatting over drinks. Have been together almost 6 years and married for 4.

It's normal with everyone you meet to start out tellig them all the stories from your life and your favourite anecdotes, but then to reach a point where you can no longer tell them that story about how you once saw that famous pop star on the train, or how you felt when you first went to Paris. And to get used to one another's presence and not stay up all night chatting. The dynamics naturally change.
But your life does sound especially dull! Is it all just Covid? Do you normally do other things, separately?
Or, as you say everything seems boring, is it just with him, or is it really everything? Could you be depressed?

Been married 40 years and never run out of things to talk about.

Before lockdown we would talk about DH's work quite often. We talk about our dogs, plans for our house, plans for the garden such as putting in a pond, tv programmes we are watching or want to watch. We both like all the foreign subtitled crime shows and if one of us reads something about one we will tell the other about it.

We talk about books we are reading, music, friends, relatives, places we want to visit on holiday, holidays we have had. We recently watched Van Der Valk and spent ages talking about our holidays in Holland. We are both doing an improve your French online course so talk about that. We talk about museums we want to go to and other places such as National Trust places we want to visit, meals we want to cook, stories in the news.

DH doesn't have work to talk about but the virus and lockdown has given us plenty to talk about. Today we talked about zoos re-opening and in particular Colchester Zoo opening next week and what places we want to visit, charity shops opening and that we have quite a lot of stuff to take to take to one of them

When you are watching telly do you not chat about it eg “I bet so and so did it” or “can you believe she actually did that!”. Do you not talk about what’s going on in the news- when there’s an election on do you chat about who you will vote for, how you stand on the issues? When something irritating happens at work do either of you come home to vent? Do you have friends to gossip about? Plans for the future? Your last post mentions talking about the past a lot but not about what is going on now or in the future

We've been together 8 years, however have quite different interests. We mostly discuss work, the economy, how we can improve ourselves financially and we reminisce quite a lot on memories we have built. I agree conversations can get stale when you've been together a long time, that is why I think creating memories and trying new experiences together is so important, even the planning of the event will create new conversations.

I'm not much of a conversationalist with anyone, and I've never had a "constantly talking" relationship as described on this thread. Maybe your problem OP is that you did have that once so you know what you are missing! I don't know so I can't say it bothers me.

Main conversation topics - dc, our pets, food, current affairs, what our friends and family have done/said. Work is a big one but sometimes I ban that topic.

Oh yeah and things I've read on here! But sometimes I frame it as "Today I was reading that..." or "I've heard a lot of people talking about...." to avoid seeming like I'm constantly talking about mumsnet.

I couldn't even tell you what we talk about because I can't remember but rest assured we never stop talking!

Kids, where we have been or going, work seems to be something HE talks about alot. Today we have talked about xmas arrangements lol generally watch tv or phone tho

We sit in silence for hours on end, in our own little internet/book worlds. But we're both autistic so don't do small talk.

Whilst I’ve had some problems with my partner recently, we haven’t really stopped talking. Maybe the odd off day but we generally have stuff to speak about. It sounds like maybe you’re the one who doesn’t know what to say etc and your partner is trying to start up a conversation by pointing out you’ve barley talked all day. When you both have a day off, make a picnic and go have a lovely walk. Have a chat about anything, try to see if that spark is still there communication wise x

Been with DH for 18 years and never run out of things to talk about. Sure it gets a bit samey especially in lockdown but we still have plenty to say

We talk about DS, past holidays, the house, our future plans, things we would like to do, holidays in the future, family and friends, things we are looking forward to, the news, things we have watched or want to rewatch. Stupid questions like the other day if you could only ever eat brunch in one cafe again what would it be etc etc

Well, everything really. It is more that, if I didn't have my dh, probably about 75% of what I say, I'd probably have no one to say it to.

Married almost 30 years...talk about everything! Never run out of things to say....quiet time too when we’re both enjoying things on our iPads, but I can honestly say we’re never stuck for conversation!

Married 20 years and never run out of stuff to say, esp with current events in the news and our family members

Turn the t.v. off.

I think spending time together outdoors normally sparks up the conversation as there isnt much else to do while you are walking along.

We've never run out of things to talk about either even when working together so together pretty much 24/7 but I do think that phones and the TV kill conversation (we don't actually have a TV so that kind of helps)

Favourite topics: the dog, dog walks, food, dinner, food shopping, house decoration, gardening, each other's families, each other's work, total made up none sense, thins we need to buy for the house, bills, chores, weather. All very boring and mundane but spend most of the time laughing nonetheless

Married 12 years together 20, we sound the same hardly anything in common except the children, he’s sarcastic about any hobbies I have and just seems to enjoy moaning and belittling people most of the time. Oh and that’s when he’s not playing games on his phone