Would you keep making a effort?

[onestepat]

I feel like I'm the one who makes a effort with this guy.
We aren't together officially.
It's always me messaging him first etc
I'm trying today not to text him first
It's hard
I don't want to play games or anything but at the same time I don't want to keep texting him making myself look desperate.
Would you do all day without contacting ?
See if he contacts me?

Wow, you're back.

You've been posting the same story about this same loser for months.

Get some self respect and move on.

I would wait for him to text you first sometimes, it's not fair you doing all the chasing.

Oh god I hadn't realised who you were until PP mentioned you've been upset about this guy on here before.

Bloody hell OP, it's not going to happen. You've been doing this for eight months and he's still not interested in a relationship with you.

He doesn't want to be with you, you need to accept that and stop talking to him.

He makes you so unhappy, you said before that all he brings to your life is anxiety and a constant feeling you're not good enough.

You need to stop talking to him permanently and seek some therapy because this is so, so unhealthy an attitude to have towards the way people treat you.

It shouldn't be all one sided should be equal between you both. As others have said take a step back and let him make some effort. If he doesn't then may be worth deciding whether you should end things. The last guy I date before my bf I ended as it was always me who messaged and me always asking when would see him again life's too short to be chasing some guy. Just stop initiating messaging and see what he does but if he makes effort for one day carry it on and just message when he messages

Oh deary dear... it's this one again.

Never listens
Never takes advice
Posts every few weeks about the same bloke, same problem.
MNers dont waste your time replying, she never listens.

He’s using you.

He doesn’t care about you.

STOP messaging him, you sound and look desperate.

He doesn’t want a relationship with you, he never will.

Stop stop stop!