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Still sees his soon to be ex-spouse to visit their pet

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Rotationz · 10/06/2020 00:01

Been with someone over a year now and he’s soon to be divorced from his ex-wife (they were together for more than 10 years). He has been more than generous in the split of finances with her and it was a mutual split after drifting apart. He has always been open and honest about their communication (never hides anything) and always says I’m the best for him in all ways). He gave her custody of the pet but will go over there approx once a month at the moment to take it for walks (he seems super close to it and has a strong emotional tie to it) and has agreed to pay half the pet’s costs for food etc.

He lives walking distance from her and I had thought once the divorce was over, they’d drift apart to no regular contact (they only mainly talk about the pet at the moment anyway) from what he said but seems that might not be the case.

They have no children by the way.

How would you feel about that?

OP posts:
FunTimes2020 · 11/06/2020 16:24

Is it a llama?

backseatcookers · 11/06/2020 17:31

@ravenmum

GrinGrinGrin

LittleWing80 · 11/06/2020 18:22

Is it a dog? Please put us out of our misery!

Seriously OP - I can understand the frustration of the lack of boundaries with an ex especially if they haven’t got kids. Have a word with him and address how you feel about him having access to her house and doing jobs and being her confident about the issues in her new relationships. It seems that a lot of guys retain those emotional ties after the split and it Causes in their new relationships.

Also, start going along on the monthly ferret’s walks!

Ethelswith · 13/06/2020 13:29

Please let it be a tortoise

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-53009731

Cantbelievethiss · 14/06/2020 13:57

I find these responses really weird. I know literally no one who has continued seeing pets once they split 🤷‍♀️

Op - id need my dh to have a clean split too

midnightstar66 · 14/06/2020 14:06

My sister has joint custody of the dogs she had with her ex, the dogs she's got since stay with her when the other 2 go so it's not a convenience thing - it's just that both love the dogs equally

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