Do husbands ever leave their wives?

[macbeam2020]

I knew a guy about 10 years ago. Casual relationship, got on great, amazing sex (nothing has compared). We have bumped into each other once or twice over the years and sent the odd hi how are you text. Both married / kids, although I'm now separated. Saw each other in the street a few weeks ago and started texting. It has got a bit carried away with talking about past encounters so I put the brakes on. He now tells me he wishes we'd properly dated and that he was just young and silly at the time. I said he can let me know if he is single again as no way would I consider seeing a married man. Do you think he is just using me or is there possibly something still there between us? I refuse to be someone's leftovers but I have always thought about him on and off over the years and wondered what if.

My exh didn't agree to leave even when I asked him nicely if that was what he wanted. He was still reluctant to leave after I found evidence of his affair and was foaming at the mouth trying to get him to go. But he did leave eventually, after I basically went on about it every waking moment until he got fed up with it. So if his wife gets pissed off enough by what a little turd he is, you might get to take over from her.

I know I have made a huge mistake even getting into conversation with him. Nothing happened, nothing was going to happen. His number is blocked.

I guess it's just hard when your marriage has been destroyed by a husband who cared more about computers and alcohol than even giving his wife a kiss when he got home from work.

Please find a way to leave, OP, if you feel this way. This is no way to live.

Deep down I know myself that men never leave their wives, despite their bullshit lines.

They maybe leave, but it's best for us to avoid getting involved with any that haven't, rather than put up with most likely bollox and lies, and knowing that that man has a poor character.

Well done for blocking him- that's strong of you. Maybe on one level you have a gut feeling he's really dodgy? (If you needed more reason than what you know he's said/done while married.)

I was chatting to an old 'friend' a while back and it got flirty, though he's married. We had planned to meet up this year. But recently I started to see what married cheaters are like after my last one. This friend is on his second wife and had cheated on his first wife too, and used someone for sex. He is not a good person to get sexually involved with, or marry.