Guy I’ve been involved with for too long ( years and years) in circumstances I shouldn’t be.
Has got himself involved with another woman. He’s free to do so. She seems from social media a really nice, independent single mum with a young child.
I suspected there was someone else. I could see the priming of her and he made reference to some things that niggled in my mind. I sought out the information, saw him there and confronted him next day about it. Some classic bullshit manipulative behaviour from him but still wanted contacted with me as friends.
I’ve seen him since that time. He hasn’t been faithful to her to varying degrees twice. It’s weeks into there relationship.
I don’t want him now but am devastated and have so many issues on myself I need to work through. I fully expect him to reappear in my life at some point. I need to ensure this doesn’t happen. I am now seeking help for my past behaviour and issues. He is a weakness in me and knows exactly what to do to get what he needs. My mental health is really bad. He plays on that.
Would you tell her though? Give her the information she needs sooner rather than later about the kind of man he is. The way he just can’t be faithful and the way he will quite literally slowly strip her of all self esteem and independence until she finds it impossible to get out?
She quite possibly wants another child. He can’t give her that. She hadn’t got a huge amount of child bearing years on her side.
By telling her I could create a huge shitstorm in my life. A shit storm which is of my own making but one I had hoped to come out of protecting my children most.
If he finds out It’s likely he would never speak to me again. That would be positive. Yet he could tell the truth of our relationship to others which would be devasting.
Rambling now. I think the answer is keep quiet. But that’s what he’s relying on.