Another gem from the OH

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NC etc...

Last night we were talking in bed and OH comes out with something along the lines of "Your tits are okay but not the best I've seen. Some women I look at and think PHWOAR, they're nice jugs!".

He can't underatand why I'm pissed off today . Add in the fact that I'm already feeling mega rejected as we've only had sex (or any kind of intimacy) 3 times in the last two years...

I'm currently looking after the kids while he's playing computer games working from home in the dining room. Only a few hours before I get to make us all lunch. Again.

It's just another erosion of our already strained marriage.

/rant

Seriously, you deserve better than this, you haven’t done anything to bring on what he said. Do yourself and your children a favour and walk away from this dickhead.

Well after we'd put the kids to bed for their post lunch snooze I gave him the news that I'm pissed off with his comments and general gobshite attitude.

I think it's fair to say he wasn't absolutely receptive to the criticism and claimed that what he said was not what he meant... . I also told him that I was considering separation because of the way he's been treating me these past few years.

He's been yoyoing between stroppy, passive aggressive and painfully nice ever since so I'm going to let him carry on while I get all my bits and bobs sorted out.

Even though it felt goooood to get it out in the open, there is a bit of me that's sad that we can't recapture what we had for the first half of our relationship. The more I think on it, I more I realise it's just the same as the end of any other relationship I've had and undoubtedly things will get worse but ultimately they will get better!

Jesus floofin' christ! What are you doing with this insensitive pig? I wouldn't want him going near me and my not-so-phwoar boobs.

You sound strong OP. Remember how you feel now 💐

Well done! keep reminding yourself you deserve so much better. It’s taking the harder route to leave, but it’s that it spending the rest of your life with someone who does not respect you.

I feel really weird to bring this up, but it’s the internet so here goes.

Not having regular sex and afffection... surely that should be the catalyst for something to change. That’s a real issue. It’s not normal.

The breast comment is just over the top mean. But I’m urging you to please look at the past few years.... sex is very important in relationships and general quality of life. You deserve to feel desired and wanted. Not as a roommate but also romantically.

Just lightly trying to point out it’s kinda a problem right?

Buried the lead here with not having had a “dead bedroom” for the past several years. The breast comment is crass for sure, however if sex has dried up for years without an underlying medical cause then it’s usually because it’s a relationship of convenience for other mutual benefits.

Please tell me that he's 22. What a rude, immature idiot.

Negging - whoever decided to put that in the knobhead's playbook deserves a special place in hell.

You see it being done all the time to women now and not just in the romantic arena, glad you pushed back OP. His reaction should be telling you that he is a hopeless manchild.