He's been messaging prostitutes

[cataclysmiclife]

I found out that my husband has a secret phone. It had messages from women which looked like he was enquiring about services, availability and prices. When confronted he said he was just flirting and messing about but has never met up with anyone and just doesn't turn up to meets he's arranged.

I just don't believe him. Why would he message and then never go through with it? He says just for the thrill of it.

He also had kik installed and Snapchat installed to message people and has admitted to looking for women on Craigslist and Gumtree(?) so it's no accident.

We have 3 under 2 year olds, are married and I've just gone back to work part time. I have no real money to my name.

I didn't get any screenshots as I was so shocked. He immediately went and deleted his accounts and took the phone back to factory settings.

I don't want my family to be destroyed but what's the alternative?

If an employer caught an employee stealing, would you say it's the employer's fault for firing the employee? If a friend was fucked over by another friend, whose fault would the end of the friendship be?

@GilbertMarkham

I'm am just frustrated that the decision to leave, and therefore break up the family, in a way rests with me.

There is no decision for you.

He made the decision (repeatedly).

Just because he's saying it hasn't been made and wants to stay with what he's done, doesn't mean there's any decision.

He doesn't want to face consequences, he wants to continue with a double life when it's convenient.

For real.

You didn’t get to this place by your actions. You’re sitting in Shit Town because of his actions alone. He is now trying to get you to run for Mayor.

Nope. You are deserving of better, and deep down you know it.