Red Flags?

[Mermaidwaves]

I've got chatting to a seemingly nice man online, due to have a social distance date outside tommorow. I have concerns though.

1. Immediately told me I'm "out of his league" really I'm not that special
2. Is already saying he really likes me and wants to show me off to his friends
3. Wants to delete his profile even though we havent met yet
4. Has told his mum! And his friends about me, see above re. not having met.
5. Is full of flowery compliments and pet names. Wants to send pizza to my work as I work in healthcare and wants to 'show his appreciation' to healthcare workers.
6. Keeps telling me how everyone thinks he's lovely and a great guy.

I need to cancel and run dont I?

Well I want more than that as well but that sounds lovely to me .

Crazy Days there are SO many men like this and that's why you thought you recognised him. They all read from the same script it would seem. I was even thinking of starting my own post about why men do this in the first place.

I can see how easy it is to get suckered in, especially when so many online guys are so apathetic and meh! But yes very much I have a geart of gold and peo0le let me down mentality about him, I think he'd already decided I was his girlfriend.

It is so hard . And I know someone really well that I believe is a really good guy , and for the right person he would be a really good match but he is a very slow burner in getting to know people ....

Why can't things just be simple and straightforward !!

Keeps telling you everyone thinks he’s a lovely and great guy. LOL! Trump springs to mind. He’ll be telling you he’s a very stable genius next.

Well done for cancelling. It’s tough out there. OLD is an absolute minefield but you clearly have good gut instincts because you’ve questioned your feelings and taken the time to ask on here. Trust your gut going forward.

Anyone who has to sell themselves to you, by referencing the supposed opinions of others clearly has something to prove. I'm surprised by his age too, he appears to be extremely immature. Good move cancelling!

@Mermaidwaves

Sounds like a guy I had a date with- from the SW too! He was in his 40's-

Long, very long WhatsApp messages- he told me he told his mum and brothers about me and how thrilled they are. He also said he couldn't believe he was with me? and that he'd happily delete the dating app we were on!

Never again!

Sounds Cuckoo, glad you cancelled op

lilmissre yes extremely long messages! Full of information about himself and apparently his friends and family are pleased. Did he like boats?

What did he say when you cancelled? Well done on getting rid!

Oh OP, run for the hills!

Ruuun, Forrest ruun!

Oh boy! I had a relationship like this a few years ago.

He lives 100 miles away and I met him online. He love-bombed the sh*t out of me and all I felt was naively flattered. We continued a relationship for over a year living apart and he was wonderful. So attentive, so caring, so generous and so excited about our relationship. Then he moved up to be with me and we found a place together, and the alarm bells finally started ringing. He became obsessed with where I was, who I was with, who my friends were (in particular the males), who I was sitting next to at work. He started dropping little comments to make me feel guilty about stuff like having male friends, going out and socialising "too much", the things I wore, the time I would get home after a night out. He even went through my phone on more than a few occasions and would make it really uncomfortable if a message came through and he really wanted to know who I was chatting to. I deliberately had my phone on silent at all times and stopped notifications showing up on my lock screen to stop any awkwad conversations which usually started with "You've got a message. Aren't you gonna check it? Who's messaging you this time? Oh I see its Nathan from work, what does he want outside of work? Do you not talk to him enough at work??"

Now, I'm not saying this is your future. I'm just telling my story which started out very much like yours.

He's the type of man that if you cooled it or called it off he'd get abusive.
I've had this before where you decide not to go on a date (because your gut is telling you to run for the hills) and then the nastiness begins.

Immediately told me I'm "out of his league"

Based on this alone he sounds like a complete gimp.