Female friend and holiday

[lamaspyjamas]

My DP of just over a year has just announced that he's going on holiday when lockdown is lifted - with a single woman! I am totally stunned, surely he can see this is not acceptable?

What would get to me is that straight out of lockdown, he doesn't want to spend time wit you - 2 months isn't a huge tie to wait.

What's that MN saying? Don't put everything into someone for whom you are just an option.

Dump him. He's not worth it. He's into her, not you.

If it's a holiday that you want to go on then he needs to wait until you can get time off.
I would not be happy with this.

Do you live with your partner now?

My ex went on two different holidays with two different female "best friends" during our 2 year relationship. The first one he was having some weird affair with and the second he had an affair with just after I'd had his baby and is still with her a year after we split.

I'm not falling for that "friend" bullshit again.

That’s bloody weird. I wouldn’t be happy with that and I don’t know any of my friends who would be. I’ve got male friends I’ve known longer than my DP but there’s no way I’d go on holiday with one of them alone if my partner couldn’t make it. I can’t imagine their wife’s/girlfriends would be happy with that either, or cool about it. The fact that your boyfriend would rather go on holiday with her than wait till you can join him doesn’t bode well for how he sees your relationship I’m afraid.