32 & single... hope for children?

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Exactly what if says in the title!

Why do I feel like I won't meet the 'one' and have children?

Do I need to panic about age?

How old were you?

Don’t panic.

I had some of my darkest days around 32... having been a long, long term singleton.

I met my partner at 37, now 44 with two kids, and he was worth the wait.

Don’t lose hope.

But do get out there and proactively date

... and don’t waste your time with just anyone!

I didn't meet anyone. After a hideous final attempt at OLD, I gave myself permission to stop looking and after a long journey with a fertility clinic I had a baby as a solo parent. It isn't for everyone, but it works for me. My best friend met her husband at 38!

At 32 I was getting out of a horrible relationship and deeply unhappy. Met my current partner at 33 and had ds at 35, couldn’t be happier now. Don’t lose hope and don’t settle!

Hope so. Cos I'm exactly the same and nearly 36 😣
Except I have a young child already, so I can't even go out and date easily! (But I appreciate that it means I already have a child).

I panicked at 30 and now I’m pregnant with the completely wrong person! He’s a good man but we aren’t compatible so I know we won’t last long term. Please don’t make my mistake and settle I wish I had waited for the right man.

32 is still so young, enjoy it!

You've most likely got 9 yrs with your own eggs (well 8 if you want to go by NHS but I think there being a cliff of sorts at 41 is increasingly recognised), almost indefinitely with donor eggs but that's obviously a while other subject.

Meeting someone is a numbers game, a d if you're not meeting a guy in your current work, hobby, social etc circles then you must change and expend them relentlessly until you do.

Oh and get a fertility check done if you're all that worried.

There's everything from basic tests from pharmacy to fertility clinic assessment (might be 150). Not perfect but better than nothing.
If anything crops up, could consider egg freezing.

*expand not expend

It doesn't happen for everyone. Like PP I also became a solo mum as I hadn't met the right person. Not my dream but certainly a much better option than settling with the wrong person or ending up co parenting with someone not taking responsibility.
I now have the rest of my life to meet someone. Not that I get any time now I didn't have the rest of my life to have a child.

There's always hope OP! At 31½ I'd was 6 months into nursing a broken heart after my totally unsuitable bf of 3 years dumped me. Before him I'd been single forever.
Then I met an interesting, handsome friend-of-a-friend one night. We hit it off, guess I was intending to have a bit of a fling.
10 years on we've travelled around the world together, built a home together and I'm about to have our 2nd child at 41. You never know what's around the corner!

Met my 2nd husband at 32. No longer together but have 3 lovely sons to show for the marriage.

Absolutely no need to panic! I wish I’d waited till I was in my 30s to settle - I’d have been so much more confident about what I needed from a relationship. Instead I stuck with my ‘first love’ due to a lack of confidence, in an abusive relationship, and had 3 children through my late 20s / early 30s. Now divorced and so much trauma which has really affected my kids.

My brother, as a well adjusted adult, met his future wife at 35. They are married with two young children within the space of 5 years and are so suited and so happy. You have time and the ability to know yourself and get it right. I wish you all the very best.

Met my husband at 33 and 3 children by the time I was 38. You will get people telling you that your chances of children are getting lower with age but I fell pregnant within a month of trying with all mine so it can happen quickly too

I met my husband at 32 and knew very early on that he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

I'm now 41 and we have a beautiful daughter.

Prior to this, I was in a tumultuous relationship with someone I wasn't even attracted to, let alone compatible with in many aspects of our personalities, yet I let it drag on for years, believing I would never meet anyone else.

I'm so grateful things have worked out the way they have, but even more grateful that ultimately I didn't settle out of fear that I was running out of time.

I’m another solo mum. Although it feels quite pressured at the current time being solely responsible in this coronavirus situation, putting that aside, deciding to have fertility treatment using a donor was the best decision I have ever made. DD is 3 now and even on the difficult days I never have even a glimpse of regret.

I was 34 when I started fertility treatment. I just decided that having a child was too important to me to let the opportunity slip by.

It’s obviously not something to go into lightly but I really would recommend it to someone who really wants to be a parent.

I met DH at 34 and quit the pill three months after. Turns out that we needed fertility treatments but that would have happened at any age.

Keep dating, keep looking.

At 32 I was in a horrible relationship that I didn't have the courage to leave until I was 36.
I met DH at a mutual friend's birthday party when I was 38. I'd given up looking!
We got married when I was 40, and we have 2 beautiful DDs, aged 3 and 4 weeks. Both conceived naturally, both were healthy pregnancies.
Don't give up!

Met 36. Married 40. Baby 44.

Met my OH at 35, had first DC 38, second at 41. It does happen! Good luck. Go online, there are good guys, too (although, I've met mine in a pub!)

Have faith! I was single my whole life and thought it would never happen. I met my now husband through online dating when I was 35. Now, at the age of 40 we are married and have two kids.

Just to add, I got pregnant with my first at the age of 37 in the first month of trying and with my second at 39 when we weren't trying (had unprotected sex at what should have been a safe time of the month!)

Certainly not too late.

@Latenightreader I love this!!!

Absolutely not!! I felt exactly the way you do at 32 and now married with a baby.