To feel like it’s to much?

[Fedupoftheworld]

I’ve really had enough.
My entire 20s have been one massive joke after another. I’ve had many traumatic things happen, from still births to sexual assault by a stranger.
On the outside looking in I look happy, but I’m far from it. I’ve been fighting a loosing battle for a long time now. I thought I’d be happy moving near ILs but they seem to just see pound signs when they look at us. I haven’t seen my own family since summer last year, and doesn’t look like I’ll be seeing them for a few months still.
All I do is look after my DC constantly. I’ve had one break over night in 3 years. I’m just so tired of having bad shit happen to me, I’m a good person but feels like all the good things happen to those who treat others badly. I’m just at the point of giving up, I’m so unhappy in life and I have no idea how to get out of this rut. Every day has been the same for the last ten years, I have no friends, nobody. I don’t even remember the last time I was “me” and not “mum.”
Anyone been in this situation and managed to change things and be happy finally? I’m dreading turning 30 and having the next 10 years of the exact same thing. feel like I wasn’t born to be happy. :(

Hi @Fedupoftheworld, we're sorry you're going through such a tough time. We're going to move your thread over to our Relationships topic now - hopefully some Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support.

You won't have this for the next 10 years. Its time to sit and work out what you can change now.

How old are the DC and what support do you usually have?

How about doing some volunteering when you can just to get some hours to yourself?

You've been so strong but sometimes you've got to make the change you want to see. (Corny as it sounds)

Why haven't you seen your family for a year?
How far away are they?
Would they be supportive if you were closer to them?
Is there a reason you have no friends?
How long have you been where you are now?
Why have not joined a club or met other mums at groups or school etc...?
Why doesn't your DH give you a break from the DC at all?
What does he do around the house?
Does he do his fair share?
You need stop people pleasing OP.
You sound lovely - but being too nice gets you trampled on.
You need boundaries.
You need to put yourself first.
Do you get half hour to yourself in the evening?
Could you go out alone for half a hour just to clear your head every day?
I have feeling your DH is abusive in some ways but only you can clarify that.