Would you break up over a known issue

[Judiwench]

I've been in a relationship for a matter of months and there was an issue for him that would be resolved imminently when we started going out. Its outing so dont want to say what it is. Instead of the issue resolving, it has grown arms and legs and got far worse.

I want out of the relationship because I now feel trapped and have had time over lockdown to realise that it's not worth the stress. The issue is on the cusp of being resolved- but that's been said since the beginning of the relationship.

Its causing massive issues and he is in a bad place, is it awful of me to decide enough is enough?

Your friends don't have to live with it though, do they? What they think simply doesn't matter, but how you feel is the only thing that matters.

You know this isn't working for you. Please don't waste another day. You will regret it.

You can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

You don't need to be his support, as he is an adult he has to learn to self soothe or get emotional support from others. If his family live in another country he can still access support via the phone. Don't feel guilty, if his mental health is bad you won't be able to deal with him as he needs to see a GP.

You can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Oh I like that.

Don't feel guilty, if his mental health is bad you won't be able to deal with him as he needs to see a GP.

Yes. That's very true. I can't be counsellor, GP, mother and girlfriend.

I know what I need to do.

This man has brought his 'issues' into a new dating relationship. He had no right to do that and you should not take them on. Tell him to go and sort himself out. Oh, and also tell him goodbye.

It was amicable and I don't think a surprise.

Thank you all, I just needed a bit if an "it's ok" when I had friends telling me how lovely he was and how I should just stick it out and things would get better. I feel relieved.

I feel relieved. That tells you all you need to know, really. Well done.