Partner doesn't let me have just 5 minutes

[NCforthisone2020]

Just that really.
NC for this.
All I wanted was 5 minutes to de stress and take myself out of the room for my own sanity. 2 minutes later DC were brought into me.

Does anyone else's partner do this?
It's not normal

all the best OP.
just rise above it. as others have said, just go out for a walk. surely he wouldn't actually neglect the children. he would be grumpy when you got back, but then you could say well now you know how i feel all the time.
and why did you pick him. not a criticism, but a warning. dont fall for the same type again. good luck.

Hope you’re doing ok today

I just say “FIVE minutes” and move away. They get the message eventually. Don’t let them guilt trip you.

Stop assuming the issue is that he is a bear of little brain. He gets it. He just reckons you won’t do anything about it.

Divorce him. I'm a single mum and I can tell you life is way easier.

Haha LexMitior you are so right. He gets it. He just won't change because there are no consequences. None at all. So why would he? The OP can talk till she's blue in the face while there's no reason to stop he won't.

I read an incredible (& old) book by Dr Paul Hauck - he did a series - called (I think this was the one) Dealing with difficult people. He was a therapist and used to watch (mostly) women sit there week after week upset about something their DHs were doing, and they would talk and talk to the DH and nothing would change.

He put together a very precise and effective plan of action which he explains beautifully. To sum up have the conversation 3 times (done)
Then without comment or anger start imposing consequences. Could be not cooking dinner for him, leaving the house, whatever it needs to be done WITHOUT DISCUSSION OR ANGER. Every time he does it there's a consequence, which is never discussed or justified. It has to be done thing important to them. You might just brush off any questions by saying 'oh sorry I just didn't get time' or 'oh sorry I just had so much else on I forgot' but in an offhand way.

He says all hell will break loose and they will try every trick in the book to get you to back down. But you say nothing, don't get drawn into discussions, and keep going no matter what.

At some point over the coming weeks they will get it. And that's when they will change. The book is amazing though because it explains the whys very clearly. The end result of un checked arsehole behaviour is divorce so you are doing him a massive favour.

My husband works upstairs all day, I'm left with a 3 year old and home schooling duties as well as cooking etc. I want some alone time at night or weekends and he moans at me.

OP he sounds hard work.

Some good advice up thread. Take some time and think about your options.