I'm so lonely, it actually hurts

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I'm so lonely and I'm trying so hard not to mind and be content with myself, but I'm not.

I've never had a boyfriend, or kissed anyone. I feel like I'm see through.

It hurts. It actually hurts to go shopping alone, and running alone, and everything, always alone.

You've been heard OP. Loneliness is an awful feeling. Someone far wiser than me will be along soon but I want to give you a virtual hug

Op I’m sorry it hurts so much
You deserve to be loved and to have all the joys of life,
Tell me about your life out of lockdown
What would you like to change!

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Sorry you are hurting so much OP.
Someone probably wiser than me will come along and give you some practical advice, but I just wanted to give you a bit of a hand hold!

Thank you

I shouldn't complain because I have a nice life. I have achieved things professionally, and I am healthy, and I can exercise. I've travelled a bit too. I have a lovely flat and I can pay my bills.

There just must be someone who'd like to spend time with me. I want to know what it's like to be in a relationship.

Bless you! It will happen one day it really will!!! There’s someone out there for everyone I promise

I'm absolutely positive that there is someone out there, OP, you've just not met them yet .

Loneliness is difficult and I can imagine it must be more so at the moment.

You sound like you've got a good professional life, do you have any hobbies?
Do you have much family or friends that you spend time with?

I'm sorry, OP. It's shit and cuts so deep. I have no advice, but I get it and hear you.

❤💐

I have a big family and I do have friends. I don't think they know how lonely I am though. I hope that they don't. I'd be mortified.

How old are you op?

Have you done online dating? Getting to know someone via messages before you meet? Worth a go, OP especially if you are lonely and not happy.

The only thing worse than loneliness is being with the wrong person .
You are bound to feel like this even more as isolation is becoming the norm .
So sorry you are feeling so sad - can you at least get out for some exercise every day ?

27. I just feel I've been waiting so long for something.

I've tried OLD a few times, but every time I've arranged a date I've been ghosted and it just torpedoes my confidence even more.

I'm getting out every day, thankfully. It does usually help.

Have any of your friends and family got someone they can set you up with? 😊

I've been in that situation. It's so rubbish and so hard to share what you're going through as so few people can be a sympathetic ear without pitying you / trying to fix it / suddenly being afraid to mention the things they share with their partner in case it upsets you.
There is no magic cure but all I can say is I know how it feels and I would be surprised if it doesn't change for you sooner or later. Keep the faith.

Sounds as though you enjoy running/exercising - is there a club or group that you could join?

I am sorry your circumstances are causing you pain. It may not feel like it to you at present, but time really is on your side. Take care. x

Look at the kind of guy you’d like to meet, what would be his hobbies, where would he hang out? Let your friends know you’d like to meet more people. Even if you make new friends and get invited to places you’ll be greatly increasing your chances. Biggest step is to get out there!

Look at any emotional blockages you might have that people can sense, you may push people away before they even try with you if you have any unresolved issues.

You will definitely meet someone, there’s lots of guys out there.

Sending hugs

I don't know what to say other than I hear you, and you will meet someone, there truly is someone for everyone. But if it was that easy we'd all be happy and coupled up.

The happiest I ever was was when I was on my own with my baby, it's a myth that a relationship solves all of your loneliness problems because it doesn't I'm with someone now and I'm happy but I still feel lonely sometimes. I guess what I'm saying is is that it's not as simple as meeting someone.

Message me if you want, I'm here, I'm not a bloke but I'm here x

Speak to a friend who you can trust, Tell them how lonely you feel. They certainly wont be mortified, You never know, they may know an ideal match for you.
When i started on-line dating, it was a disaster, I think I went into it expecting to much, When I realised to take each date as meeting someone new and not necessarily as a "partner" it became easier, It took meeting some frogs to find my prince

Learn about ‘femenine energy’ if you’re open minded, it’s quite interesting.

You should actually tell your friends and family you feel lonely? It's nothing to be ashamed about.

I've just tonight messaged an old local friend and asked if we could meet for a distance walk for my sanity, I just said I was feeling a bit crazy and would love a chat and are meeting this week. It feels lovely to of shared that with someone.

Oh bless you OP

I was single for 25 years of my life (except for a 4 month relationship which crushed my confidence) till I met my now husband. I had no close friends or should I say friends I could just call friends? I had my mom, my siblings, a great career everything except that relationship where you want to feel loved and special. All I will say is that hang in there. Someone who's just perfect for you will come along and have confidence in that. I'm sure you're a beautiful person inside out

I was single until I was 27 OP, I felt like I’d never find my person until I did. Your perfect match may be closer than you think. You can do this