Before lockdown, I had been texting a guy for a week through OLD. Couple of his texts overstepped the mark but naively I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Anyway we met for coffee and a walk, he never asked me a single question. At the end of the walk he said he’d like to see me again and to let him know if I felt the same over the weekend. The lack of questions together with the constant sarcasm and more overstepping the mark ‘jokes’ made at my expense meant I had no inclination to see him again.
Anyway he called me that evening for a chat and to see if I was up for a second date. I said no and he asked why so I told him. He agreed his Constant sarcasm does wear people down even his friends, but the things I found offensive were just ‘jokes’. That old manipulation trick 🙄😤.
Anyway to get to the point of my post, I told him he never asked me one question to which he replied it know’. I said so why didn’t you..,, his response was ‘Iwas testing you’ 😮!!
My exh was a vile narcissist who tested everyone he met to see if they could ‘hold their own’ and be worthy of his attention! so when this bloke said he’d been testing me, I got annoyed and told him he was a very unpleasant person to think it was acceptable to test someone on a date! Then he deflected it back to me saying I had ‘Mental issues’ and That he knows he’s a good person and I was clearly mad!
So my question is, why would a man test someone on a date? Is it to see how vulnerable that person is so they can then manipulate and control them in a relationship? Is it to see how much shit that person will take and so they know what they can get away with?