Men what puts you off online dating profiles

[Dislocatedeyeballs]

Honestly? Just read another thread about what puts women off wondering what puts men off?

Interesting... what is most interesting is how diplomatic considerate and respectful these answers are compared to the women’s thread! I wonder if would get similar replies if posted on a predominantly male site hmmm

I've been with my partner for 4 years having met on Tinder and what attracted me to his profile was first his range of photos. He's a cyclist so one was of him in a race and I liked the fact he had a hobby and would want time to himself (we're middle aged so no family building for us. Plus he looked great in Lycra!) In others he was smiling, wearing goofy glasses in an another. His commentary said he liked travelling when he could, walking his dog at the beach, liked beers, good food and cooking, more into dinner dates than clubbing these days. It was simple and warm. He didn't list a single "you must/mustn't" and neither had I. We all have our list of no-no's but I think its clinical to list them on a profile.

@violetribbon No, but I know and love the place. You’ve reminded me of another common photo I see on profiles - standing outside The Cavern pointing at the sign.

When I joined tinder I changed my sex to man looking for women (with no pic or profile at this point) to research how women presented themselves. The amount of snapchat filters was incredible, I don't get the logic of that. I saw a fair few of the "I expect you/I won't tolerate" phrases related to appearances, types of date, finances etc. I know a couple of women like that in real life and for some reason they have men falling over themselves.

Profiles that say "my friend made me come on here". I agree about the horse photos lol.

Having never done OLD, I am astounded that women put pictures of their kids up. How on earth is that a sensible or safe thing to do when looking to meet men you don't know?

And I don't mean for the 'Mumsy' presentation that pp have talked about.

Duckface pouts,rabbit ears,snapchat filters (in the 45-50 age range this was !) and the one that used to REALLY bug me,Women photoshopping and enhancing pics to make their eyes bigger/more attractive in pictures (like thats going to fool anybody)-Some of them looked as though their auditioning to play a Disney character ! Oh,and will fill this in later`,soooo mysterious,always leave them wanting more eh !

I quite like the horse related pictures. They are being transparent. It’s not just a hobby, it’s a lifestyle. Cycling has a bad reputation but this is a completely different magnitude (time, money …). Little room for anything else. Better you know beforehand. Profiles exist to make a quick selection; the photos help you do that.

I’m a woman and when I had dating profiles I never wrote anything and just had one or two pics And I still got a lot of attention. I think less is more unless you want to meet someone with specific interests or are looking for a specific level of relationship

I’m a woman and when I had dating profiles I never wrote anything and just had one or two pics And I still got a lot of attention. I think less is more unless you want to meet someone with specific interests or are looking for a specific level of relationship

I found this too on my first round of dating which was just for fun. The second time I was hoping for a long term relationship so wrote a bio and had more luck attracting the kind of men I was looking for.

Photos holding a fish
Stupid 'pouting' expression - the woman not the fish!
Photos in a group - cant tell which one is you
Photo in front of a car/motorbike
Shirtless photos

@VeganVeal

That's quite a list of things which put you off a woman's profile!

@JoesExotic
Why settle for second best?

@JoesExotic that list is tiny, go have a look at the long lists of things on the thread things that put women off men's OLD profile, now they're long.

@forgetmeyes

Indeed.

Only thing about seeking perfection is that normally, they are already taken by someone who appreciates their perfection, or they are looking for perfection themselves.

If your profile avoided every single one of red flag on those other lists you'd not be able to say anything other than hello, but even then that would be considered dull or creepy.