If you had no friends at all for a long time

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How/where did you eventually find them?

I know most people don't particularly like me and that's entirely my problem but I don't believe that there's nobody in the world who'd like to be my friend. It's just finding them, which feels a bit of a mammoth task when I think of how many different people I've met and not become friends with over the years.

Bit down about it at the moment and I'd love to hear any success stories of going from absolutely no friends to finding somebody.

(wouldn't apply).

I've become good friends in the last year with someone I've known as an acquaintance/friend of a friend for about 5 years. Weird its taken that long to move to friendship. For ages, I didn't want to try and move it forward and I guess neither did she, not that I was that bothered either way, now she's one of my besties! I've no idea how/why it changed after all that time

So you can get slow burners. Golden rule, never force it. Definitely one where the harder you try the harder it is!

So friendship is a two way thing and indeed those who have many friends tend to find interesting things in other people and no criteria for friendship.

It sounds a little like you define friendship as someone wanting to adore you or contact you regularly, to serve a purpose for you.

Try seeing the good in others, and realise it's not what they can do for you but what you can do for them.

Like you I'm not everyone's cup of tea but bet you're absolutely able to be a great friend. We are social creatures from an evolutionary perspective so as others advise join a club and meet people.