Witty response to "How are you still single?" when asked by men

[LilMissRe]

Hey everyone

Just that really. If a guy you are chatting to/ chatted to/dating, has asked you this, what did you say?

I think op's question related to guys she's dating / chatting to.
Why are you all offering her snarky comebacks?

"Apparently I'm scary when I have a sharp knife in my hand"

I said this in a pub to a guy who wouldn't go away, he left shortly after... Not sure if that was why.

Blank face.
No words.
Raised one eyebrow.

I was going to say “just lucky I guess” but see someone has pipped me at the post.

I am covered in scales beneath my clothes.

This ^

So have you actually said any of these to a guy you dated and kind of liked/fancied and wanted the date to go well but at the same time you don’t want to come across deflated with the whole thing ?

When my friends ask me that my deflated side does show up. But I’m not sure what to say to a guy who is probably trying to be nice.

Cos I’ve been known to be a bit of a bunny boiler!

I thought this was going to be about Chris Witty. I got a bit confused your title!

Sorry, I'll leave now.

@teddypops I immediately thought about Chris Witty too 😂

“Oh well maybe because YOU haven’t asked me to marry you yet” - said with a very sweet smile (if you want to get rid of them)

I’ve used “.... must be my personality” again with a sweet smile

It would be a “because I have standards” response from me! Or a simple “good taste?”

Jesus, every bugger on the thread is still missing the fucking point 🤣

@thisismytimetoshine well, hardly. ''every bugger'' on the thread has only just been brought up to speed that the OP means what to say on a date.

If I were on a date OP, I'd say the truth, never met anybody I liked who liked me. Two groups. People I like. People who like me. NO OVERLAP

No, it's in the original post.

Ah, so witty as is "I like you" not witty as in "why are you asking, creep"

Something like? "just haven't met someone who holds my interest, but you're not doing too badly"

Well OP if you want the actual answer as to why youre still single- only you can answer that. You asked for “witty responses” so that’s what you got. If you mean a serious response then I’m sorry but no one here knows why you’re still single.

I think op's question related to guys she's dating / chatting to.
Why are you all offering her snarky comebacks?

No one is being snarky to the OP.

And seriously if a single guy asks this, what the hell does it mean? It is actually sexist bollocks. It implies that, from his pov a woman should have been 'claimed' y a man, and that women who are 'attractive enough'will have been suitably claimed and not single.

The answer, of course, is, 'same as you - I am either hard to get along with , or I haven't met the right person'.

It is so idiotic as a chat up line that it deserves no respect at all!

The cynic in me thinks men ask this so they can get you to list your faults, file them away and then when they’re bored of you repeat them back to you and say “you said it yourself- you’re clingy/cold/intimidating/whatever” so they can dump you and pretend they’re not a bad guy.

Yes, it is a red flag question.

What's wrong with you. Help me out with a list of your faults.

No self awareness in the question as if they are on a date, they too are single.

Id turn it round on them if i were on a date. 'Oh sure, you know yourself!'

It's defo a red flag question!! It means the person asking has no self awareness or understanding that you are looking to meet somebody you click with which will be a unique set of parameters to you. Not some weird checklist that you either fit or don't fit. They're basically saying you're a high scorer in the perfect generic girlfriend charts. No way would I want to date somebody who thinks like that. I don't want to be a generic girlfriend. If I was dating I'd be looking for a decent candidate to be a partner, someone I can share the burdens and the fun parts of life with. And the person that fits that role and the range of characteristics they have therefore is unique to every person.

If its on a date, I'd go with "You first - tell me your story" - as how they responded would be very telling, and would hopefully spark off a useful conversation.

Although I do "just lucky' if you just want to deflect ;-)

I've been asked this today online. I think it's just standard question and he told me why he thought he was first. Chatting online though, I'm a bit meh about it. Don't want to overshare or even share with a stranger but if you keep to banter you don't get to know them. I might retract my toe from the murky waters...

thanks everyone! I didn't think of it as a red flag, but then again, I am working on spotting red flags so bear with! ( past relationship knocked out ability to see flags, be it red, white green or yellow!)

Interesting re self awareness. As @BertieBotts , @AndwhenyougetthereFoffsomemoreand @MyHappinessProjectx say, what they say reveals more about them, like profiling.

I find some men online go into robot mode and churn out the same lines, like it is a script they had memorise when they were younger, and not deviate away from it.

I do love the 'just lucky I guess'- how sassy is that? brilliant!

@Teddypops Re Witty, Chris Witty- you made me laugh so much! Yes I can see where the confusion came about ha ha ha

"Because being with a man reminds me that society is a patriarchal construct that offends my sensibilities as a militant feminist."

Because being with a man reminds me that society is a patriarchal construct that offends my sensibilities as a militant feminist."
Little wonder you're still single.