I've been cheated on.

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I found out this weekend my boyfriend cheated on me. He invited a few 'friends' round whilst i was in bed and kissed another girl.

I'm gutted. I got a half hearted apology on Saturday and have not heard a word from him since. I feel so urgh.

How can I get over this?

Really sorry to hear this.
Lowest of the low.
How long have you been together? Any children? And how did you find out?

We were together for 18 months. No children. I just want to feel better.

I found out through a friend. He didn't tell me.

do you live together? kick him out

No we don't live together. I just feel so sad all the time. The lack of contact had been worse than the act itself. How can he just cut me off so easily?

Stay away from him he's obviously disrespectful and not worth you wasting your time on. Block him.
Once this is over find yourself someone nice who treats you how you deserve to be treated x

Thank you @copperoliver - there is no need to black him, I've not heard from him 😒. I feel so flat. I just want to feel better.

Has he ever done anything like this before?
This is where you have to set your boundaries! If you don't, and it will hurt like hell for a while, then this will just become a pattern.

He clearly doesn't care and he no remorse if he hasn't tried to contact you!

Do you have family and friends around you that you can lean on for support?

You will feel better. Just not yet.

You've been let down.

But, on the bright side, you don't have to ever
allow him to do it again by never seeing/speaking/texting him again.

@FirstTimer861 - I don't know if he has done it before. I have a lot of support. I just feel so sick all the time. I'm meant to be working from home and I'm finding it impossible to concentrate. I feel so tired all the time.

Sorry that you're going through this, you deserve better! Block, NC and move forward.

@MrsRudderless - thank you. I hate feeling like this. He had really let me down. So so badly.

@WhatInFreshHell - thank you. I've not contacted him. I have nearly so many times. Even typed out the message. But I've not sent it.

Don’t go back. If you do, you’re telling him you’re fine with a lack of loyalty, that he can do what he likes and you’ll put up with it. Find your anger. Delete and block his number, grieve for a bit then get to the stage where you see him for what he is...

@Longtalljosie - he doesn't even want me back. I've not heard anything. I want to find my anger because it's got to be better than this constant on the 'verge of tears' feeling.

What people have already said- plus, am I right in thinking this has happened since lockdown? Because if he had a party during lockdown he is an utter twunt and not worth bothering with for that reason alone.

@MsF1t - yeah. I know. I was staying with him but have come back to my place (only me and DC here).

I have a 10 year old DD.

You will feel better in time, it will just take a bit and soon you will feel okay again, x

@copperoliver - I hope so. I really do. I'm so tired.

Hang on, he's invited friends round and you're back and forth between his house and yours with your child?

Sorry just read that you left his house (presumably due to this episode) but he still shouldn't have had friends round should he?

I'm sorry op. That's shit. But you will feel better, not yet, but you will. Everything happens for a reason.
Just a gentle reminder to get an STD test soon

@Elephantonascooter thank you. I wish I could feel better now.

The silent treatment is an abuser's tactic to make you feel grateful when they then get back in touch and then you are more compliant because they have trampled down a boundary. Be very careful. It's hard but you need to take control and block him to take away any opportunities for him to contact you